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    Default Wife an Abuser, Looking for Full Custody

    State of CA.
    Wife abused our kids (2 oldest), physically and emotionally for years (I am not a shrink but you look up bipolar narcissist) until I called the cops (haven't seen report yet but they thought was serious enough to take her away to jail till I saved her with some tapdance, big mistake) and filed for separation and custody. After mediation we have a deal till the hearing in August with her having some supervised (sort of, by her relative, but much better than no supervision) time with the kids.
    I have a bunch of declarations to the court, at least one witness' declaration too of beatings and emotional abuse. She violated the temp order all the time till we got the current deal.
    What I am wondering is whether I should move at this point for custody evaluation and full trial, since unless we agree there is way too much for a mediation and a hearing to sort out (the longest declaration my lawyer ever filed, witnesses to depose and cross examine etc.). The abuse haven't gone beyond mild smackdowns more or less, plus denying medication to one of the children for a chronic condition, plus may be a flight risk so I wonder -- what under the best of circumstances can I get if I move for full eval and trial rather than wasting time and money on more family therapy and mediation and hearings?
    I essentially would like her to have some, very minimal and supervised contact. She will want as much as she can get, and will probably continue violating orders.
    Thoughts? I am afraid the time is working against me and as abuse fades with time the status quo of supervised short visitations will fade into unsupervised and longer or shared custody and this will be exactly the nightmare that kept me from starting all this much earlier.

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    Default Re: Wife an Abuser, Looking for Full Custody

    This really is an issue you should decide after discussion with your lawyer. Your lawyer has the full background for your case, is probably familiar with the mediator, and should know the preferences and practices of the court.

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