I don't get how I could prove paternity. I'm his father we both know it and I was there at the hospital when he was born and I've put a roof over his head and food in his mouth. How can she be proven he's hers and I can't?
You're kidding, right? A child that came from her body and you question the child being hers?



Did you sign an affidavit of paternity and is your name on the birth certificate?

If not and if you have not been legally established to be the father via a paternity test, you have no rights to the child until such time it is proven. You will have to file for a paternity test (DNA) with the courts. Until that time, the child is hers and hers alone.

I don't plan to release my child to her until she decides to rationally sit down and work out a custody plan with me.
Not real smart if you are not the legally accepted father (as in one of the methods noted above). That would be called kidnapping and could result with your spending some time away from not only your child but everybody.

What does it take to call it child abandonment?
generally no contact or effort to provide any support for greater than a year.

This is MY SON.
then prove it.

I NEED TO ACT FAST AND I NEED A PLAN OF SOME SORT OR I RISK LOSING HIM.
If you are going to need a DNA test, it will not be fast enough to prevent mom from taking her child in April. It just isn't possible to be completed that fast.