Have you asked the "ladies at probate" for additional help, as the attorney suggested? Most people working at such places are eager to help.

If that doesn't work, look for another attorney and ask if the initial consultation can be without charge. As with any relationship, not all attorney-client pairs work. Don't assume that because the first one didn't work, that it's not worth pursuing.

If the estate is worth your time and cost to administer, you probably need an attorney's assistance. If you don't like this advice, don't expect it to change just because you ask again. If the estate is not worth your time and cost to administer, I believe you can resign as administrater -- those "ladies at probate" can probably tell you. It's likely to end up a mess, but you won't be dealing with it.

Edward