Adoption By a Boyfriend Without Marrying

[Dogmatique]

Further, if OP actually starts raising more than an eyebrow (let alone any of this stuff), the Judge will likely have OP sitting outside in the hallway...

[LawResearcherMissy]

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On a side note, i thought these forums were here for legal advice, not criticism, and judgement.

Wait till you get to the COURTROOM! The judge will bring up the same issues we've discussed here, and more...because judges are in the business of JUDGING.

Sing it, Sista Catherine!

It took me all of five seconds to find our OP's MySpace, his girlfriend's MySpace, and some really, really unflattering things written on a "don't date this psycho" website. If it takes me five seconds, it's going to take the Judge three, and he's going to be a lot, a lot, A LOT harsher.

Justin, you're a legal stranger to this child. It doesn't matter what YOU think is in the child's best interests. What matters is the COURT'S opinion, and the courts have long held that it's in the best interests of the child to have contact with his or her biological parents unless it is PROVEN that said parent is unfit.

You don't dare attempt to claim ignorance in this. You did something really, really dumb here - posted your intention to lie to the court in a public forum, under your real name. Dumb, dumb, dumb. It WILL be found, and even if you manage to get your user named changed, the memory of Google's cache is looooooooooooong. They don't dump it out every 30 days any more. Consider your foot shot.

[jurasi]

okay, for one, I never said I had intentions to lie in court, I just asked what the end result would be, I never said we were planning on doing anything illegal. I asked what the court would do if we went about no aknowledging who the father is. Now that I know it's illegal of course we can't do it that way. I was just trying to find out if there was a simple way to do it. obviously there's not. And as far as the "dating psyco's" profile. That is an ex-girlfriend who isn't so flattering herself, hence the reason why she's my ex-girlfriend. And everything on there is her opinion. but thank you everybody for the advice. Now, how do I go about it in the courts? Do I file a motion, hire an attorney?

why are you guys slamming me? I didn't slam any of you. I just asked for advice.

[Dogmatique]

Justin you're not hearing us - YOU have no standing to file anything.

At all.

[LawResearcherMissy]

I just asked for advice.

We gave it to you. We can't help it that you don't want to hear it.

You can't file for anything. At all.

What you want is not going to happen. You cannot do an end run around the biological father. Not happening. The law says NO. Period.

If you want any rights to the child at all, you need to marry her Mama, STAY married to her, and then convince the bio-father to voluntarily give up all of his parental rights to clear the way for you to adopt her. AND get the courts to go along with it.

That's the only way.

[jurasi]

Okay. I get it, i hear it loud and clear guys! :-) I appreciate all of the advice you guys gave me. Adopted or not, I'll still take care of her the best I can, and love her regardless. If it works out down the road that I adopt her cool...if not...well I still love them both, and will be there every step of the way. LawResearcherMissy, if you've seen my profiles, then you understand, she's cute as a button, with the personality to match! lol, and they're both the best things that's happened to me. And once again thank you every one for the advice, I really appreciate it. I will come her for all my legal questions. i'm glad I found this site...lot cheaper than a lawyer! lol

[Dogmatique]

Okay. I get it, i hear it loud and clear guys! :-) I appreciate all of the advice you guys gave me. Adopted or not, I'll still take care of her the best I can, and love her regardless. If it works out down the road that I adopt her cool...if not...well I still love them both, and will be there every step of the way. LawResearcherMissy, if you've seen my profiles, then you understand, she's cute as a button, with the personality to match! lol, and they're both the best things that's happened to me. And once again thank you every one for the advice, I really appreciate it. I will come her for all my legal questions. i'm glad I found this site...lot cheaper than a lawyer! lol

THAT is one of the most gracious responses to an admittedly tough thread that I've ever seen.

Good going, Justin

[LawResearcherMissy]

LawResearcherMissy, if you've seen my profiles, then you understand, she's cute as a button, with the personality to match!

Oh, she's darling.

But keep in mind, they're ALL cute at that age. Puberty sucks. I've just survived my second round of it, and I'm glad it's done.

You know, fair warning and all that.

[Dogmatique]

Oh, she's darling.

But keep in mind, they're ALL cute at that age. Puberty sucks. I've just survived my second round of it, and I'm glad it's done.

You know, fair warning and all that.

Oh no...you mentioned the "P" word.

[cbg]

Every time my husband sees a baby or toddler, he comments, "They're cute at that age. But then they become teenagers and your life becomes a living hell."

To which I respond, "Yes, and by then the warranty has run out."