My question involves divorce in the State of: North Dakota and California

THis is a very complicated situation and I have basically lost hope...20,000 in lawyer fees and no answers....can anyone help??

First of all I am miltary and stationed in ND. My ex moved here with me in 2007 and went back to visit her family off and on throughout the time while I was deployed. When returning from my deployment we decided it was time to end the marriage. She moved back to California in Dec 2008 and I filed for divorce here in ND Jan 2009. She was properly served but failed to respond or appear for the divorce. I was given a default judgement and legally divorced as of March 2009. In September of 2009 she filed a motion to quash the ND judgement in California saying that ND lacked juristiction over her. There was a hearing that I attended in california with my attorney who was fighting for that motion to be quash and telling my ex she needed to come to ND to vacate the judgment if she didnt agree with it. However, California ruled in her favor and Vacated my ND judgment and set our marital status back to married. She took in no evidence to decide that california had juristiciton or not. ND had full juristriction according to my ND lawyer and my California lawyer.

My questions are:

Can I get married now?
Am I divorced or still married"
Can California vacate my ND judgement?
Can I just ignore CA completely and go on with my normal life because I have a legal ND judgement?
What happens to me if I do not respond or appear at the CA divorce hearing since I am already legally divorced by North Dakota?


Any help or answer anyone could provide will be great! i need some hope!