Results 1 to 4 of 4
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    KS
    Posts
    1

    Default Husband may have fathered child in extra marital affair

    My husband recently confessed to a 3 month affair with a co-worker. The affair has since ended and only resulted in intercourse twice, but also may or may not have resulted in a pregnancy. His co-worker is pregnant but still married even though she has separated from her husband after having to confess to the affair. She has since tried to threaten and blackmail my husband. As painful as the confession is, we have a strong marriage. Her marriage was the one failing all along and she sought support with my husband. In his compassion, he made very poor decision, two of them actually, even though he used protection both times. His co-worker never uses protection with her husband so the chances are reasonable that her own husband is the father of this child.
    It is difficult for my husband and I to pick up the pieces and heal our marriage, especially since she is an unstable party to deal with. Certain days she'll email him saying she wants my husband's friendship back and never meant for them to take their relationship to a sexual level and never wants anything from him, financially or relationally. Other days she is furious if he refuses to be involved in this child's live, should testing prove that he is the father. When we mentioned a waiver of parental rights or her husband adopting the child as he wishes to do if testing proves he is not the father, she gets furious and threathens to take us to court for every penny possible. It is hard to read her, she refuses to perform prenatal dna testing because she claims to intend the best for the baby and doesn't want to take any risks, yet smokes and drinks heavily during pregnancy. She also made her husband move out of their home even though he wished to mend the marriage and has since two months dated another man.
    What kind of legal consequences are we up against? If she mends her marriage and her husband raises the child and she refuses dna testing, where do we stand if she changes her mind in 5 or 10 years and divorces then and insists on dna testing and child support at that time. Can we force her into prenatal dna testing because 6 months of threats and blackmail from her make healing difficult on us. Especially when we were planning to conceive a second child of our own this summer.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Behind a Desk
    Posts
    98,846

    Default

    If your husband is legally determined to be the father, he is entitled to parenting time and will ordinarily be required to pay child support. If he wants certainty, he can bring a paternity action himself rather than waiting to see what she does.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Posts
    1

    Default Re: Husband may have fathered child in extra marital affair

    what about waving rights -- My Husband and I are in the same situation. I want him to sign over parental rights -- but he believes he would still have to pay child support is that true ?

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Behind a Desk
    Posts
    98,846

    Default Re: Husband may have fathered child in extra marital affair

    It depends upon the laws of the child's state. Typically, states will not let the parent simply sign away his rights, save in the context of step-parent adoption, and in contexts where parental rights are terminated for cause (such as abandonment) they often permit the state to continue to assess child support against the parent.

    1. Sponsored Links
       

Similar Threads

  1. Possible Child from Husband's Affair With Married Woman
    By CuriousT in forum Paternity Law
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 04-16-2012, 02:41 PM
  2. Divorce: Can I Sue My Husband for Having Children While Having an Affair
    By Laww22 in forum Divorce, Annulment and Separation
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 09-05-2009, 08:13 AM
  3. Replies: 5
    Last Post: 12-24-2008, 01:09 PM
  4. Defamation: Woman Called 30 Years Later To State Husband Fathered Her Daughter
    By lizziemartin55 in forum Defamation, Slander And Libel
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 04-25-2008, 08:36 PM
  5. Replies: 1
    Last Post: 01-15-2008, 06:17 AM
 
 
Sponsored Links

Legal Help, Information and Resources