Hello, from MIch
I've been on this board for a while. I never thought this would happen to me and I can't believe it. Please bear with me for this is involved and I would like some honest advice:
Me: FUll time student - 4.0 - paralegal. 9 months pregnant, drug free and alcohol free. I have a 2 bdr condo, car, etc. My income is limited, but this is not a factor. I had sole custody for 2 years, dad had supervised visits.
Dad: rehabillitated drug addict - clean and sober, but still have concerns about others things (not important). Lives in one bdr apartment, and now has joint legal custody, I have full physical. He takes our daughter to his bro's house for his wknd overnights - bc there is a bedroom for her there.
On Friday, Jan 1 - my parents and I got into a fight. I told them I no longer wished for them to be in m life if they cannot repsect me. They have moved themselves into a parenting role for my daughter - a role I never approved of and never relenquished myself - so we always butted heads. They, for years, paid for my legal aid against my ex and testified against him - they don't like him. However, when I said they could no longer see my daughter, they called my ex and said I was a danger. Said that I abandoned her, etc. Which is not true. I'm 9 mos preg with kidney probs, and my Dr asked my mom to take my daughter for the last weeeks of pregnancy bc I couldn't lift anything over 5 lbs. They have now used this agaisnt me, saying that I abandoned her with them.
My ex called CPS on me. He refused to return my daughter Sunday, as the court order states, and says that he believes I'm a danger bc of what my parents said, and bc of the argument w my parents - however the info he received from my dad was alll one sided and bias - my dad gave him permission to keep my daughter. My daughter, nor my ex were there when the argument occurred with my parents.
The police won't do anything. I filed a motion, but feel helpless. My parents and I are now estranged and they used to pay for my lawyer, but now they do not. I am lawyerless. I can't find a pro-bono.
I had a mutual family friend call my dad and ask why he did this - he said he was afraid he would not see his granddaughter again and made a deal with my ex that in exchange for bad testimony against me, my parents could still visit with my daughter. I talked to my ex and he said he was going for a termination of my rights because my parents claimed I abandoned her - not true at all. I do admit, I have given them too much control over my daughter's life, tried to cut me out of the pic from day one, and whenever I would try to take back control they would stop me. I feel as if my mom has an unhealthy obsession with my daughter and codependent relationship.
What do I do? CPS is coming 2moro, and ironically I am looking forward to it bc I want them to see that I keep a nice house and environment. I want them to test me for drugs. I want them to see this is a lie.
I don't think I deserve my rights taken away, or custody chnaged simply bc I got into a fight with my parents. How do I prove my case against 3 people without a lawyer? Are there any resources out there for me? Please help me. I am so sad and lonely. And what hurts the worse is that my parents did this to "show me up" out of spite. I can never forgive them for this.

