What Do I Need to Do Get Emancipated or Not

[kaley101254]

My question involves emancipation laws for the State of: Tennessee

I have been getting mentally abused by my mom for a while. She has always chosen my little sister over me. i have been forced to grow up at a young age to take care of my little sister. I am 16 now and my sister is 13. My mom just recently told me that if she got into a car crash and died it was going to be my fault. Im use to everything being my fault with her so all i could say was ok mom. I want to get emancipated because of this and i think i will be better off with school and just my life period. I no most people would say that but im not most people. I have been dating this guy for a little over a year and he is 17. He is going to join the army and wants me to go with him. Like i said i have been getting mental abused by my mother and see chooses my sister and her boyfriends over me. I dont no what to do and i need alittle advise but im scared to talk to my guidance councilor. Will someone please help me.. thank you

[cbg]

Tennessee has no emancipation statute, which means that emancipation is not an option.

[aardvarc]

Even if your state DID have liberal emancipation statutes - nothing in your post even remotely suggests that you'd be a candidate. No court under any circumstance (even if you end up pregnant) will remove a minor from parental care to run off with a boyfriend - no matter HOW abusive homelife with parents might be.

Authorities remove minors from parental care when circumstances such as physical abuse, neglect such as filthy living conditions, no running water, no food in the home, or forcing children to participate in criminal activities is suspected. Not being nice or fair isn't going to cut it. Having to help take care of siblings is called part of being in a family. That's life.

If the issue is really about your homelife, follow your intuition and talk to your guidance counselor. It might benefit you to get some help with coping skills, better ways to approach communicating and negotiating with mom, and how to identify emotional needs that are lacking and how to get those needs met in a healthy and productive ways (part of the natural "pain" of becoming an adult is learning how to meet worldly and emotional needs for one's self).

If the issue is really about wanting to go off with your boyfriend, it's not gonna happen. (And be REALLY careful that the "dating" doesn't end up as "baby-making" - if you're irked at taking care of a 13 year old, you're REALLY gonna think life sucks if you have to take care of an infant 24/7 - especially if the daddy is going to be an ocean away and you'll be stuck with mom whose mood WON'T be improved by that situation).