long story but to par it down as brief as possible....
im from the uk, entered usa approx 5 years ago, with 3 children, as visitor to visit freinds.
fell in love moved in with him,he said he would sort out the imigration stuff, one year later he got diagnosed with abdominal aortic anurisim, got married at his insistance as we knew we would eventualy marry and he was worried if the worst should happen that i wouldnt be able to exacute his wishes.
thankfully he survived as we found the anurisim in time and the operation was able to be performed successfully in the nick of time.
over the ensuing recovery time(1 year) he became more and more controlling and mentaly abusive. i was also told he would not assist in my becoming legal and he woulds block my efforts to do so myself. not sure if it was because of being married to him or because of the health stress
shortly after regaining his full health i was diagnosed with carcanoma insitua.
he grew yet more frustrated,more controlling and more verbaly abusive, more angry at my lack of ability to perform "my dutys" cullminating in him assaulting me physicly (police were not called), haveing prieviously been in a physicly abusive relationship i told him that that would be the last time i would allow it, he decided to leave
he refused to sign to allow further tests, however as treatment had started shortly prior to him leaving he had already signed for treatment for the carcinoma insitua, and so that at least could go ahead. it suggested that it was probably easily curable.
shortly after which husband requested to come back saying he would sign for further tests if i allowed him bk, i refused as i suspected it was only because we knew that i was treatable and i had come to believe that in fact he didnt love me merely wanted an unpaid maid.was also afraid that if cancer was discovered else where he would leave again.
he cut off the amenitys, and refused to give me a divorce stateing that he would contest it.my health started going down hill, no income, folk from the church offered to take in my children whilst i was ill, 6 months later they were still performing op's and treatment on me each time finding more, by this time i had lost the house and was living with freinds,
one year later still no end in sight for the treatment.it was decided in view of my health,my lack of financal ability to care for them,and the fact that my boys needed security that i should allow the church family to adopt them
two years later finally got clear results
also have a new man in my life who i met when i was at my illest,and with who i now live with.
still illeagle,still have health problems,i have tens of thousands in medicle bills, im scared to attempt to get a divorce and marry my boyfreind in case he becomes liable for the debt
his income is below poverty level, i have to work for us to survive but to work i need to be legal and have ss number
is there any way i can become legal at this late a stage?
(my estranged husband is a vindictive man and will do anything to prevent this)
if i apply for change of status do i run the risk of being deported?
if i marry my boyfreind will he become liable for the debt my health incured?
or is there no hope for me?
sorry for the length of this

