State = CT
About 6 months ago found out my wife was having an affair with an old high school friend. She kept doing it in front of my face (lying over and over) for till Sept when I told her I was filing for divorce. It seems either the other man ran for the hills, or she wasn't ready for divorce since they broken it off. Since then she hasn't been very remorseful and treats me like a roommate. To my mind she has either already checked out of our marriage or going through a huge mid-life crisis.

I began started pushing for divorce again a couple of weeks ago as it is clear her heart isn't in it anymore. But then last week they found a lump in her breast and she is in need of surgery (she's put off) to remove an ovarian cyst. To make matters worse although she has stopped seeing the old flame it appears she has befriended a 20 yr old boy (she doesn't know I know) in the neighborhood now. She clearly has low-self esteem and has a constant need to see herself through someone else's eyes. No way I will to wait to see where this one goes. My 13/14 year old sons know about the first affair and I will damned if they are going to get to witness this one.

I wanted to be there for her in medical struggles but I have reach a breaking point. No matter how bad a husband I have been no one deserves to be treated like this.

So my legal question is what do I do if my wife is really sick? I really want to start divorce proceedings again, but (of course) I feel I need to honor our marriage. What are the legal ramifications of divorcing someone (I pray not) with a ongoing possibly life-threatening illness?