Nine years ago, I walked out of my sons life without any attempt to contact him in those years. He is now 13.
I did this because I was selfish, immature and plainly, irresponsible.
Recently, I have been in contact with his mother. I had no way of contacting them directly, so I sent a letter through her grandmother that lives in ohio and her grandmother that lives in Oklahoma.
His mother seems to be angry that I have contacted him after so long. Rightfully so. However, I want to make things right.
The last email that she sent to me was that she is remarried and that her husband wants to adopt my son.
I didnt skip out on legal child support, because when we divorced, I lived in Florida and she lived in Nebraska and the court could not make a ruling on visitation and child support. The lawyer that I had at that time advised me not to pay because it would be considered a gift instead of support.
My questions are:
1. Can I still legally pay child support? Can I force it on them through the court?
2. Can my son be legally adopted by his mothers new husband without my consent?
3. Can I get rights to him.