My question involves labor and employment law for the state of: Kentucky
I was just hired less than a year ago into a department and was transferred from one team to another about two months ago. The new team I've been assigned to never had a girl before. Two of them wanted to get to know me as a friend and colleague, which I was fine with because the entire team's dynamics is like that. They are supportive of each others life and work struggles, and I wanted to fit in and prove myself to being a valuable asset to the team.
I was assigned to one of the senior team members to learn the systems he managed. He told me he personally asked my boss to let him take me under his wings and help catch me up to speed. The senior coworker started opening up and talking about his marriage problems, and I would listen and even give him advice because that was what everyone else on the team did, and I really wanted to fit in.
But then he started saying things like, "If only you and I could be together," because "I just want to know what it's like to care for someone who cares back". He then became blatantly obvious and asked me why I have boundaries at work and why I don't want to sleep around with people at work and even with him. I'd argue with him that such questions was a moot point and that I didn't appreciate him trying to push boundaries and to please stop. But he treated that like a challenge. While I continued to work under him, he'd keep making remarks such as, "I'll buy you lingerie if you model it for me in private," "You should wear high heels because they're sexy," and that if he knew he could get me to leave my boyfriend he'd do it in a heartbeat. Even what I would do if he were to passionately fondle and kiss me late at night at a hotel room while we were away on a business trip. And every time I'd tell him I wanted him to stop because it made me feel irritated and miserable, he'd say that I was being too sensitive and that I need to lighten up because he could joke with other girls at work and they'd be fine with it, so I should just accept it as nothing serious--"Unless, of course, you do say yes. Then I'm serious, all right?"
He also told me that this company has had someone who was charged with sexual harassment by three different women when they were each first hired, and that person is still working there while the women either resigned or transferred to a different department.
It took me two months before finally letting my boss know about it because I didn't want to face the facts about this person whom everyone else regards as an extremely nice fellow who could do no wrong. I also wanted to give it an earnest effort to fix the problem myself and give him a chance to change. But after he touched my butt while I was coming down a step ladder, I looked back at everything and could no longer keep my eyes shut. My boss said he didn't know how to deal with such a serious matter and went straight to HR and Legal, who promptly conducted an investigation and found nothing because the offenses were all behind closed doors and the offender said he was just joking and I never made it clear that it made me upset.
To make things worse, I just had a quarterly review with my boss, and in it he said that the whole "situation" ruined his plan on having me take over the offender's systems that he managed. He continued on, saying that he has to have a sit-down weekly discussion with me on what I'm accomplishing every day because he's "scrambling" trying to find me something to keep busy with. He said that it'll be an uphill battle for me to get the rest of the team to feel comfortable enough to talk and work with me. He also expressed disappointment that the situation is putting all three of us on the spot, especially because the offender is such a good person and valuable resource to him.
What really took the cake though was when he said three or four times in that meeting that the offender's feelings were hurt by the whole situation and that the offender is deeply saddened and is no longer such an open person.
Whether my boss meant it or not, it seems like he's supportive of and believes in the offender, that I'm lying, and that the whole situation is my fault.
So when my boss also stated that young IT workers such as myself generally don't stay with the company until retirement like my offender is, I felt very threatened and warned that I should start looking for another job.
All three of us--myself, my boss, and the offender--still have one meeting together left with our higher-ups next week, but I have no idea what will be said. Is there anything else I can do at this point? I've tried to rectify the situation on the lowest level possible because I really don't want to go to the EEOC. My boss is blaming me for the mess this offender made that really could have been avoided if he would have respected my boundaries and taken me seriously.
I'm sorry that this post is so long, but I wanted to be sure that all information that is needed was given. What are my current options? I wish my old boss would take me back, but my old position was deleted the day I was told of the transfer.

