What is Rape

[cbg]

I am just wondering what she said NO to?

If it was to the sex....yes, that is rape.

If she said no to the choking, that's another issue. Yes, probably criminal as well.

Was it consensual sex that got out of hand? Or was it rape?

The whole thing is best settled with talking to a lawyer. If she has marks from the choking, she should get it photographed asap. If she tried to fight, she needs to get scrapings from her fingernails asap. And file a report, talk to a lawyer, asap.

Remember, once you urinate or shower....a lot of evidence is gone.

Believe me, I don't wish it on anyone.

And a respectful gentleman would have been concerned and stopped.

I'm thinking from the perspective of (1) Someone who has been raped by her fiance, he liked it kinky, I did not. (2) The cops, the defense are going to ask the same question.

Sweetheart, even if she initially said yes to the sex, if she changes her mind at any point prior to penentration and says no, then it's still rape. It DOES NOT MATTER if she was saying no to the sex or the choking - SHE SAID NO.

[PandorasBox]

That's my question: Did she say no to sex prior to penetration or after? When did the choking start - before penetration or after? I am aware that some people like to start choking or pulling hair AFTER penetration. That's when there is a difference between rape and consensual sex that got out of hand.

What did she say NO to?
- The sex before penetration?? (rape)
- The sex after penetration? (iffy)
- When did the choking start? Before or after penetration?
- Did she say NO to the sex (rape). Or the Choking (assault?).

These are questions she will have to answer to the police, and also in court.

[upset2008]

Thank you for all the help- I said no when he penetrated me and began choking me

[KeyWestDan]

Pandora's Box might be a frequency poster, but this person is clueless.

None of those questions matter. If the woman says to stop, the man has to stop. To continue after that point is rape. Plain and simple. If choking is also involved then I would say that is definitely an aggravating factor of the rape and would enhance the penalty.

It does not matter if it is a first date, in a relationship or marriage. It is still rape. Period. End of story. Do not pass go. Go directly to jail.