So there is no way that a relative can adopt my son? The biological father is a "part time" father... kinda comes around when he wants to. My son barely wants to spend time with him and I would rather just drop all financial and physical responsibilities of the father so my son and I can move on.

I have no problem sending him back his child support payments, however, he would like them to just stop coming out of his checks. Is there a way I can do that with the courts? Or would it have to keep coming out of his check and I would just have to repay him back when I get the money?

It would be in the best interest of my son to not have his BF in his life since he is rarely around now. He spends more time with my father than anyone as I go to school full time in the day and work at night. My parents have basically taken on the roll as parents for my son. They have both suggested to adopt him but are worried that it would take away my rights as his mother.