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AnoninNC
This deals with the State of Mississippi Social Services and the State of North Carolina where my friend lives
(And when I say my friend, I mean my friend, lol.)
So my buddy has confided in me about a personal issue he's dealing with and I really want to help him out. He's not very computer/law literate and I'm just a law school hopeful so I want to point him in the right direction. The State of Mississippi has sent him a letter in North Carolina asking for child support for a child that he says 100% cannot be his (more on this later). They sent this letter while he worked out of town so he gave a family member permission to open the mail and now the entire family thinks he has been hiding a child from them for years. He says they don't believe him and it's gotten to the point where things are being said that could make future relationships with certain family members irreparable. It's causing him a great amount of stress and he wants to take care of it as soon as possible.
Now, things get interesting because he says he got a very similar letter years ago from Mississippi and when he called to clear that up they admitted that 1600 or so paternity letters had been sent out by clerical error. They are not admitting to anything like that in the case of this new letter however and they are demanding a DNA test.
When I asked how he could be 100% sure he was not the father he gave the following:
1) He is a 25 year old white male, the mother is a 40-ish year old black female, and the child is also black - clearly this is possible, but he says he's positive he's stuck to the typical college aged white female population for sex partners
2) The child suspiciously has the same exact birthday (different year) and the exact same name as him.
3) At the time of the child's conception, he NEVER traveled outside the state of North Carolina (he would have been in college) and he never met anyone from Mississippi - again, its possible but it just seems unlikely
He wants to know what he can do to get this cleared up, possibly without the personal violation of submitting to a DNA test. I know it would be the easy way for most people but what he really wants out of this is a written apology from the Mississippi Dept. of Social Services for causing his family this ordeal. If he submits to testing I feel like they would just move on and send the generic "you are not the father" letter without ever addressing that there was clearly a mistake made on their part in the first place.
That's all i know. If you want me to ask him any more questions the next time I see him I will gladly pass them on if you think it would help. I told him I'd see what I could find out and get back to him as soon as possible.
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to help!