While I had written a tit for tat response, once reading it, I found it to simply be argumentative and with little value. As such, I pared that down to the following:
Ah, this explains a lot of your jumping to conclusions.Baz:
I was 29, and had been in therapy for three years before I realized that I had been abused. Contrary to your stereotypes of the psychotherapeutic profession, my therapist never told me I had been abused, even though I had been describing abuse to him the whole time I had been in therapy. When I finally realized that what had happened to me wasn't right or normal, and that the problem wasn't that I was a bad boy, but that my parents were cruel, sadistic people, my therapist finally said "I wondered when you were going to figure that out.
1. you are very young
a. due to that, you have little life experience
a1. due to that, you have little wisdom
b. due to that, you have not seen enough of lifes problems to have much of an understanding of the problems at hand from a point other than a book.
2. you have recieved therapy for abuse
a. due to that, you have a soft spot for those that may have been abused
b. due that, combined with your age, you believe that all kids that received corporal punishment have been abused.
3. due to number 1 and 2 above; you tend to extend your situation on to others
a. due to that, you have trouble being objective
Listen well young person;
I am not stating the OP has not been abused. I am not stating he has been abused. Either is possible. I am not stating he is a wimp and is to blame for not "manning up" and accepting punishment. I am suggesting he look at what he sees as abuse and be objective in viewing it. Was is simply punishment? Was it abuse? If punishment, was some punishment warranted at the time? and many more questions that are to be left between the OP and their therapist.
We only have one post by this person who has been in therapy for 35 days and this great revelation has come out that dad abused me therefore, I am fine, dad is an SOB.
especially due to your stint in therapy, you should see that this is way too fast for a huge breakthrough. As you experienced, it took you years to see what happened in your life. Yours is far more typical. If you have never seen a patient that has steered a inexperienced or naive therapist to reach a particular conclusion, you would not understand why I believe this is too quick of a result. Patients can be very controlling and a poor therapist can be controlled, very quickly. Not saying this is the case here but it is always an underlying thought.
When in therapy, it is not only the physical actions that are of concern. In fact, they are only the basis for what has become a problem. The understanding of the actions, at the time, by the patient are far more important. That is why I said there are people out there that have had no true abuse yet, in their mind, there was abuse and inversely, there have been kids that have been horribly abused that have dealt with the situations very well and have suffered no ill effects due to their mental position.
These responses are generally deep within and bringing them out is not a quick discovery. Then, not only do these reactions and mental position need to be discovered, they need to be related to the original action as well as the current actions. On top of this, part of the therapy is to allow or cause the patient to experience "self discovery". That is what allows the patient to heal. Having a doctor say "your problems are "this and that"; The reason is "this and that" does nothing for the patient. He must realize, or discover, the relation between the causal action and the ultimate response (problems at hand). This takes time. Sometimes a long time. It rarely is an overnight success.
You have taken one post, with limited info, subjective info, and turned it into the Betty Davis story. While you may be correct, you have nothing on which to base your presumption. You are speculating and guessing.
On top of everything else, you seemed to want to over look what I said that is still the most important thing, which you have supported with the relation of your own personal story:
best of luck to you. Get some treatment and move on with life. Dwelling on the past is not healthy once you expose the underlying basis for your problems. You deal with them and move on with life.

