My question involves child support in the State of Washington, where we lived. Or maybe Massachusetts; where the mom now lives.
I recently got a call from my ex-girlfriend's former husband; who I didn't know existed. I did not know this, but apparently she was engaged and married during the course of our very serious two year relationship. She got pregnant in the last few weeks of our relationship. The husband, who had the marriage annulled when he found out his child wasn't his, tells me he's willing to testify that she told him she willfully got pregnant with me because she preferred my genes. I of course knew nothing about any of this. The child is now seven months old. She and the mom have until very recently been living with the husband in his house.
I want absolutely nothing to do with this mess. The mother tells me she wants nothing from me; but is unwilling to put that in writing. I realize it's a long shot ("there are no exceptions" and all) but does anyone have any ideas? I've heard something about a denial of paternity standing uncontested for two years taking the effect of law. Assuming she's cooperative, is there anything the two of us can do, short of adoption, to limit my exposure to this? We're both very pro-choice, and had agreed there would be no children without mutual consent. She simply changed her mind, and never told me.
I'm an economist (and, for what it's worth, she's a very talented ER physician). By my math, I owe her roughly $1 million; payable over the next eighteen years. That seems high; for having been unknowingly tricked into impregnating someone who wanted a child for her own reasons.