Hi,
I previously posted a question about my childs father where a bad situation had taken place in his home. I filed papers to ask for supervised visitation. He didn't respond to the declaration, and when we attended mediation (required in CA) he advised the mediator visitation was a hassle and he wanted to give up physical custody but my child can call whenever. The child is 8 so this is going to be a life changing event.
I have a couple of questions about this. First off, once he voluntarily gives up visitation how willing is the court going to be to give me sole legal custody? I don't think he should have the right to parent from the sidelines.
Second, if he changes his mind 6 months down the road, how willing is the court going to be to allow him visitation again?
Also, the mediator report lists some "standard" suggestions one being I need his permission to move out of the state. I love where I live but if, in the future, I am promoted I may have to move. How likely is the court to waive this based on the fact that he is voluntarily giving up his visitation?
My last question is about child support. He works for the family and grossly under reports income. He declares about 21k income when he put 100k down on his 500k home, owns 3 luxury cars, dresses in armani only. His attorney managed to convince the court that paying for half of healthcare was a hardship and the amount of child support is minimal. I had an attorney who, in my opinion took my money and ran, and at the time she said there was nothing I could do. I am degreed and hold a certification in finance so I'm not looking for him to support me, but he should pay to support the child a little more adequately.
I have recently heard about something called voc-recal or voc-rehab where the court will order a CPA or attorney to do a market analysis on what the parent's professional qualifications are and how much they could be earning if they were not accepting a lesser wage. Does anyone know about this?
Any help would be appreciated. Like I said, I don't want his money helping me but more money to help pay for health insurance, sports, school clothes, etc would be nice.
Thank you.

