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oh, you mean "nice folks" like you who are telling me that it was my HORRID mistake when I was tricked. Everything is not always black and white sweetie and not everyone is how they seem. But I don't really expect someone as perfect as yourself to understand. And telling me it was my choice to get pregnant by a dangerous lowlife is so very helpful! It sounds like you don't have a life and get your kicks by coming on this site to try and pick fights with people who are actually on here for expert law advice, not ridiculous opinions.
Here here, I agree!

I suppose I'll step in and give you the "real" information about how it "really" works, since these, ahem, "nice folks" only dwell in fantasy. Clearly, they do. And you know they do simply because of the fact they have such a silly and petty thing as the law and current legal climate trends to back them up. Hogwash, claptrap.

It's important to remember that advice is merely one's opinion about what could be or should be done. You are free to take all of their advice, some of their advice or none of their advice. However, at the end of the day, I think you'll come to the realization that what these unpaid volunteers do out of the generosity of their own hearts by donating their time is pretty much in line with how these things actually work.

Why that is the case is a question you may surely ask. The answer is pretty straight-forward: the people who respond to the various threads contained in the various forums here do so because they happen to have a reasonably good understanding of how the system in these areas work. They come by this by various avenues: some are lawyers, some are clerks of court, some are police officers, some are just really astute people with a keen natural intellect who have had some occasion in the past to deal with similar issues and would like to reduce the discomfort others might face based upon the discomfort they have previously faced.

For the police officer, it's no great stretch of the imagination what is their motivation: the personality types drawn to putting their lives in danger for the welfare of strangers are those possessed by people who grew up with a sense of civic responsibility. Further, they generally have a great desire to protect those who can't do so themselves, for whatever reasons. I should like to think this is considered noble.

For the lawyer, it's entirely ego and elitism. I jest. It's for similar reasons, wit the understanding that the process means more than the particular case at hand. It's to ensure that our system of government, our social fabric remain strong under the idea that every person deserves to have at least one person in life who will be an advocate for them. I think this is also noble.

For the people who just have had some previous experience to take time out of their lives to reduce the burden others in similar situations might have to endure speaks quite highly of their character.

And then we have you. I suppose you're a case-in-point that some people can stay longer in an hour than others can in a week. If you don't like the advice or opinions you get here, as has been pointed out, you are certainly free to hire a lawyer and receive the same, or very similar information. If you think the people here are being rude, consider for a moment which is the lesser of two degrees of rudeness: people who might not kiss your ass by telling you what you want to hear by providing to you free advice, or a person who will provide to you very similar information, but at a substantially larger cost.

If nothing else, one would think you would take away from this at least a better idea of what questions to ask an attorney you might hire. Instead of doing so, near as I can tell, you merely want to argue that you're a great person who was merely hoodwinked by some low-life. Even if that is true, my dear, it's completely irrelevant to the question you asked, and to the rather good legal advice given in response.

Incidentally, a great way to all but make sure that things don't work out in your favor in court is to approach the judge with the attitude you herein have displayed. On second thought, I guess that won't really matter one way or another since the biological father does have certain rights right up until the very moment his parental rights have been terminated. It's curious to note that the termination of his parental rights are quite beyond your ability to enact, hence the court.

Do remember, that what you refer to as your child is equally his.