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    so my friend is pregnant and in fostercare. her and her boyfriend want to be together and take care of their child, but he lives in another state... what can they do to be together and do whats best for their new baby? can she emancipate and go live with him? or can she get moved from fostercare in newmexico to fostercare in texas and live there with him to raise thier child??

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    She can wait till she is 18 and released from the foster care system. A pregnant teenager in foster care is NOT going to be emancipated in any state. Nor is the state going to approve a pregnant minor in foster care being relocated out of state to be with the man who impregnated her.

    She should have thought of this BEFORE she spread her legs.

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    well whats going to happen to her and her baby if her current foster parents dont want her. i dont see why she cant go to texas to raise her baby. i know she made a stupid choice, but nothing can change what she did, now alls she can do is try her best to help her baby. shes only 16

    also she has been talking about running away from cps after she has her baby if they dont let them be together. she will be 17 by that time so my question is... if shes 17, running away from cps and living in texas, will the police even look for her? i heard that in texas you can move out at 17. i dont think its true but she does and i need to convince her not to do this. so whats your advice?? i also heard that the police in texas dont even bother looking for 17 year old runaways.

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    I believe I already explained why she can't go to Texas. It doesn't matter whether you understand why or not. It isn't going to happen.

    The cops won't have to look for her. All they have to do is call the cops in Texas and send them to Loverboy's house. They will do it if the state tells them to, trust me. Then they will take her pregnant little minor ass and send her right back where she belongs. Where she will be kept under a much tighter watch.

    My advice is that she stay right where she is because she's only going to end up right back there in the end anyway.

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    Well that won't happen If she don't get caught. And also I don't understand why you guys that answer our questions are so rood. Were just asking. Calm down. If we piss you off that bad maybe you should try finding someone else to answer.

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    Timberwood, if I had a dime for everytime I heard that phrase Won't get caught. I would be a rich man.

    The answer to your question is she will not get emancipated. If she runs away, she will eventually get picked up. Then she will be placed back in the foster care house. If not some other foster care home.

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    She should have thought of this BEFORE she spread her legs.
    I saw this yesterday and slept on writing something back or not. Seriously - I don't want to get into drama - but I think you need to be more empathetic to these children. Yes children - not adults who have had practice learning the consequences of their mistakes.

    Children are not placed in foster care thru ANY fault of their own. Ever. If it is the kids that is doing something wrong they are not placed into foster care but a different legal detention system.

    These kids had parents who did drugs, beat them, sold them into prostitution, neglected their medical care and left them with dozens of absessed teeth, covered in lice, no food for days on end, chained them to toilets, etc. etc. Or maybe placed them up for adoption at birth and the poor kid was never chosen because they have physical and emotional issues from being a crack baby...

    Had to get that off my chest. This girl who "spread her legs" may have only found the one person in her short life who actually cares for her just for being her. Everyone else in these kids lives are PAID to care for them - from the judges, lawyers, social workers, group home leaders and foster parents. The children know these people are paid to be nice to them. The boy and girl should not have sex - I agree - but being SO HARSH about their mistake was really unjustified.

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    Your opinion is noted.

    However, if no one has taken the trouble to care for these kids, that's all the more reason that SOMEONE needs to point out to them the necessity of thinking of the future, not to mention a reminder that the law is not going to bend because they want to be with that one person. If they've never understood about NO before, they need to learn it now.

    Haven't you ever heard of ToughLove?

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    These kids had parents who did drugs, beat them, sold them into prostitution, neglected their medical care and left them with dozens of absessed teeth, covered in lice, no food for days on end, chained them to toilets, etc. etc. Or maybe placed them up for adoption at birth and the poor kid was never chosen because they have physical and emotional issues from being a crack baby...
    So that makes it OK to get pregnant and make another child who will face the same life of neglect and poverty?

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    Of course it isn't okay - but the girl is already pregnant and it does not sound like she wants to have an abortion. I completely agree with the advice given. Don't run away - don't pretend you are adults when you are children - work with the foster system to get parenting classes.

    My comments come from remarks posted on the other threads that were also started by the OP.
    I agree with being straight to the point with the legal facts - but blaming the kids for being in foster care and telling her to keep her legs shut after the fact is not going to do anything but make them want to avoid the adults that should be helping.

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