We married twice within 2 months. 1st. in Fl (where we live) in July and renewed in Negril, Jamaica in Sept.
By the time we were married 3 months the verbal, emotional and drunken rages were so bad I went into a battered woman's shelter. I refused to return home until he made a verifiable counseling appointment. My foot had been stepped on & at I believed him when he said it was an accident but no longer believe that.The MRI showed a fracture & 2 sprains. Even now it is painful to walk & I am limited to tennis, bare foot or slippers.
By our 2nd. & last appointment with the PhD it got so bad I call for a ambulance during one of his drunken rants and spent 5 days in CCU and his adult daughter who lives in the home had tried to beat me up after I asked her to help out in the house. He refuses to make or ask her to do 'anything' in the home & she doesn't contribute a cent & he pays all for her.
New years eve my physical and emotion health had suffered beyond belief and angrily I got all off my chest and said I was leaving within days. The day before I was to leave a saw a side of him I'd never seen or heard so I stayed.
All was wonderful for about 2 1/2 months then I started to see/experience the same old behavior.
On 4/28 in a drunken rage he ran up on me & choke me. When I asked him to stop he was hurting me his grip got tighter & the glass I was hold broke. My hand, fingers, knee and face was cut/bleeding. When he let me go I call 911 and he was arrested.
At 1st appearance on 4/29 he was ROR, & the court ordered: call court services within 24 hrs of release; come to courthouse within 72 hrs of release to give address for mail; maintain alternate residence; no contact with me; release to court service for treatment supervision; evaluate & participation in treatment for substance abuse, alcohol abuse & anger management; one time visit with law enforcement officer to pick up personal belongs.
On 4/29 'before' he was released for jail he call me from the jail & asked to speak to his daughter. After their call I helped her pack a suitcase & sent his cell phone. Several hours later he call again using the cell phone I sent. Shortly after that call he come to our home and took our car. I called the police and they called his cell & left a message to call the police dept. When he didn't they issued a warrant for violating the no contact order and faxed a copy to The State Attorney's Office.
On 4/30 he called in to court services, said he was in a hotel & asked if he could call home to speak to his daughter and if he could go to pick up the car at our home & he was told "No" to both. He failed to tell her he had done both the day he was released and when I reported the violations to the court a report of his violations was written.
On 5/4 he replied to a e card I had created/ordered on 4/21 to be sent on 5/4 our 10 month anniversary. He replied "Dear ___, I love you too." I called The State Attorney & per request I emailed a copy of his email along with a email from the e card site customer service dept. that I had created the card on 4/21 to be sent on 5/4.
My husband doesn't work, has money (from dead wife's ins.) and can stay hidden for a long time. He knew I had an appointment the day after he took the car to schedule my 3rd. workers comp. surgery for 2 shoulder tears and knew I was out of 1 of my heart meds & had to wait until 5/1 when the new PC doc kicked in, knows it is more than 2 miles just to get out of our sub division/another mile to a bus stop and I do not have any money.
With all of this in mind, does anyone know what he will get for all the violations & misleading/not telling court services he'd already violated the no contact order? What more can I do to protect myself? What can I do to support myself when I am unable to work/will be TTD after surgery?

