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    Unhappy Girlfriend Abused by Parents

    My question involves juvenile law in the State of: Colorado

    First off, I will start by saying that this may just be in the wrong portion of the threads, but oh well, I need help.

    So, let's get down to business, shall we?

    Here is my story.

    I have been dating this girl for six months now. We grew very close within the first two, and have loved each other more and more ever since. We started having sex (mind you it was protected) after the first month. We continually had sex, and still are, though not as much, at this point.

    Well, after she started dating me, her parents started making horribly ridiculous restrictions on her. Examples being, grounded for a C in her classes to the point where she has no contact with the outside world what so ever. Mind you, they also live 20 miles out of town.

    So, as the months went by, things got worse. They are on the verge of losing their house because her (step) father got laid off from work, and her mother didn't get her GED until last week.

    Now, during our fourth month with each other, we started talking about how fun it would be to raise a child. We talked, and talked, and talked, until finally one day we figured "Ah, what the hell, let's have a kid."

    Now, I know some of you people will piss and moan about "Oh, you shouldn't have done that. You two are idiots." Well, **** you too is what I have to say to that.

    Humans are genetically designed to give birth at the age of 12-14 at the earliest. We simply followed our instincts, and told society to go and screw themselves because we didn't care what anyone thought.

    So, anyways, we kept her pregnancy a secret from all parents, until one day her mother went flipping through her texts and found out that she was pregnant.

    Well, needless to say, she reacted way worse than we thought she would. Much to our misfortune, spring break was when her mother found out. So, immediately her mom grounded her from the phone and internet, completely cutting her off from contact with me.

    Now, this is where the worst bit of it all comes in.

    During this time while I was not permitted to talk to her, I found out that her mother was doing some really horrid things. She first stated that she was taking her into town that weekend for an abortion. My girlfriend told her that she did not want the abortion.

    So then, her mom started working my girlfriend to the point of exhaustion daily, trying to make her miscarry. Well, fortunately, my girlfriend is very careful with herself. When her mom saw that that wasn't working, she started working threats.

    She threatened to send her back to her home country to live with her not so kind family members, a good five states away from me. She also threatened to arrest me and charge me with rape (which would not work because I am underage for such a crime, and said crime never once occured).

    Well, when she still did not give in, her mother started to break her down emotionaly and mentaly with things like insults, working her harder than before, and things that a parent just should not do to their children. All of this, falls under abuse.

    Well, since my girlfriend had no where to go, and no one to turn to because her mother had cut her off from EVERYONE and they lived twenty miles out of town, she gave in. That weekend her mother took her to the nearest abortion clinic, and she got an abortion, much against her will.

    So, what I'm getting at is the fact that my girlfriend was forced into an abortion by her mother, and she is continually being abused by her mother (not physically, but emotionally. her mother is too smart for physical abuse).

    I need to know what our options are, because as this last month has gone by, she has been getting worse and worse for her, and she wants to get away from this hell that our laws that are intended to protect us are forcing her to stay with the ones causing her harm.

    Can someone please lend me some information.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend Abused by Parents, Need

    Your both underage, therefore you both must follow your parents rules. Theres not much you can do at this point but wait until she is a legal adult to make her own decisions. As far as working her into exhaustion, if you and her think thats shes overworking now, just wait til you experience being a parent. Enjoy growing up you have plenty of time for no sleep later.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend Abused by Parents

    Options?

    If your girlfriend is being abused, you call CPS. The national hotline is 1-800-4-A-CHILD

    That's your option. That's your ONLY option.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend Abused by Parents, Need

    Quote Quoting DonnyC
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    Your both underage, therefore you both must follow your parents rules. Theres not much you can do at this point but wait until she is a legal adult to make her own decisions. As far as working her into exhaustion, if you and her think thats shes overworking now, just wait til you experience being a parent. Enjoy growing up you have plenty of time for no sleep later.
    In regard to this, my girlfriend has raised her little brother since he was born (10 year gap between the two). Her brother is ADD, and raising him was nothing compared to what they had her do.

    On top of that, I need no life lessons from a prick who doesnt know me. I just want law information.

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    The law is: until she is 18, her parents make ALL decisions about who she sees, where she lives, and what, if any, social life she's allowed, if any.

    CPS investigates physical abuse and neglect like receiving physical injuries, or lack of food or water, or living in physically unhealthy conditions (no running water, toilets that don't work etc.). They aren't going to consider being strict, mean, etc. as being even in the ballpark where they'd look at it. Parents are legally allowed to BE strict, mean, controlling, unfair, and unreasonable.

    And regardless of your biological clock, the LAW is that having underage sex CAN be illegal at worst, and is most certainly enough for her parents to get a restraining order against you at best.

    Having already gotten pregnant once, she has NO chance of legal emancipation now (because the court will consider her to need MORE supervision, not less).

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    Default Re: Girlfriend Abused by Parents

    I just want law information.
    You GOT law information. You're underage, you do as your parents tell you until you're 18 years old, and if she's being abused, you call CPS.

    That's the law. Calling people names because you don't like the answer doesn't change the answer.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend Abused by Parents

    Humans are genetically designed to give birth at the age of 12-14 at the earliest. We simply followed our instincts, and told society to go and screw themselves because we didn't care what anyone thought.
    1 I can see by your posts that you have an attitude problem and a problem with authority

    2 I note that you did not mention ages. There are certain circumstances when it is illegal to have sex, and you being underage does not excuse you from that. You may care for what society thinks when society throws you in jail.

    and she wants to get away from this hell that our laws that are intended to protect us are forcing her to stay with the ones causing her harm.
    3 you may think they are causing harm, but that is nothing compared to the harm, poverty, and grief that will come from having a child as a minor.

    4 you are hurting this child far more than her mother. The number one indicator for bankruptcy is having a child before the age of 25. What do you do for a living? How much do you make? I bet it isn't enough to raise a family. If you REALLY love her, you will wait until you are financially and emotionally capable raising a family.

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