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  1. #1
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    Default Ex-Husband is Slandering Mom to Kids

    Four years after our divorce, my ex-husband is still telling our children that I tried to kidnap them, falsely accused him of child abuse to kick him out of the house, am guilty of several felonies, that I lie to them, etc.--all totally bogus. He has apparently shown the children "papers" to "prove" what he's saying.

    In the year prior to my decision to divorce him after 12 years of marriage, my ex was diagnosed with a mood disorder, was on medication, and he lives in another reality that my children have to live in, too, for half of their lives. I do not have any current information on his condition or meds.

    I lost many friends from his allegations, but the most hurtful thing is how the children are twisted up inside, particularly our youngest boy who is now 8. The older 2 children, now ages 10 and 13, have begun to realize that not everything their father says about their mother is true, but it still causes them a great deal of tension. A custody evaluation in 2002 admonished my ex for badmouthing me, but still granted him 50-50 custody.

    Is there any legal or formal action or consequences I can pursue? My attorney has said there isn't anything I can really do, and I hate feeling so helpless in this situation. In other ways my ex is an acceptable father, but he remains extremely hostile and uncooperative toward me. I do not want to remove their father from their lives, but he works hard to undercut their attachment to me. No education or mediation (we saw a custody mediator for 2 years after the divorce) has helped his ferocious anger abate.

    Anyone out there have experience handling someone like this?

    Thanks for any help!

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    Default Ex Badmouthing Mom

    There's not much that can be done in this type of situation, unfortunately. It can be very hard on the kids. Keep working with your lawyer.

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    Default mother in law / sister in law slander to kids

    my husband is going through the same situation, only its his sister that is badmouthing him to his kids. He does not allow them to have contact with her, but their maternal grandmother happens to live next door to his sister and their mom allows them to visit. She has even told them that they have another brother out there that their father denies, said she would arrange for them to meet and even showed them pictures of this child!! My husband was involved with a woman 10 years ago, (we have been married for 4 years) and ended the relationship with her as soon as he found out she was married. she ended up pregnant around the same time. She stayed with her husband, gave the baby his last name, put his name on the birth certificate and he has raised him since birth. Now they are divorced, and my husband has not heard a word from her since he left her. My sister in law had been bad mouthing me so my husband stopped all contact with her. She started looking through old photo albums and came across a picture of this woman, she and my mother in law actually contacted her and went to visit her and this child. Now the woman is saying my husband is the father (she emailed us pictures and there really is a very strong resemblence to my husband) but refuses to allow him to be a part of his life because he only knows hew ex as his dad. But at the same time she continues to allow his mom and sister to visit with him. his sister continues to harrass us, i recieved a letter from her yesterday, and now she is trying to say that my engaement ring is actually hers, we have the receipt from when mt husband bought it and wants it back or she will report it!! we have called the cops to have them tell her to stop contacting us, and now she is spreading ugly lies in letters ( the ring is only one part of her 3 page letter.) we just want to be left alone and really dont know what we can do to stop it.

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