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  1. #1
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    Default son in maryland with bio.father

    first of all , thank you for your time.

    what i need to know is how do i make sure my son is able to live with his biological father whom i finally was able to locate after 15 yrs., our son is 16 now. i am not a bad mother, though i am only a mother and without a male figure in my sons life, he was in trouble alot......went to kid prison at 13 yrs old. , being a bullly, and welll attitude of my life sucks, my dad doesnt care, and so forth and more. none the less my son became victim to the system, unable to be a kid with alll the kid fun was manifested into hooking up with worse suches in the detentions and well more counseling and classes and always in juvi. spent christmas in juvi one year.
    ok anywho, i contacted his father and explained to him he really needed to meet his son and mend some of the thoughts which i could not even ease with me being mom. father paid child support, state enforced for years. i never had support for my son revised, measly 180.00 a month. state often asked me to revise, i refused due to the hopes of his father contacting my son and geez i didnt want to go for his juglar . the point is my son is with his father in maryland, i have stopped recieving child support , i notified child support that child is with father, i stopped his state medical. his father has been acting as if i am trying to fight him from being able to care for our son, i even tried communicating with the stepmom, since she supposedly has issues of jealousy, welll they kept speaking to me in terms which i should have used apparently the past 15 years. i am confused. my son has my permission to be there. his father says he needs some documentation that will allow him to what i dont know what else he would need from me, so he would be authorized in parenting our son.

    hope i was not too confusing , just confused myself .

    peace and harmony with and amongst all.

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    It sounds like you need to petition the court for a change of custody, which will result in the father having physical custody. The downside is, you will then be liable for child support to him.

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    Default son in maryland with bio.father

    ok well what if i didnt want to involve the courts. my son is 16 and i was reading marylands words of custody issues, and since he is over 14 he can say where he wants to be. i just want the father to be able to be the adult signature, usually required for school, medical, establishing residency.......and as far as child support , i no longer recieve the 180.00 per month. he now recieves it, well they dont deduct it from his check, once a month, so why cant he provide as i was expected to do with it. hmmm........you mean to tell me , i may have to pay child support, well i knew the possiblity and my son said if his father does venture those thoughts , he will return home to me. he went there for a visit and decided he wanted to stay. which i am so happy that he is living a life which i can not provide for him. he has lots of family there, which is a big change , here we dont have any relatives. so of course its a big change, with the big christmas get together, and just all the extra support as family strength. well thankyou for the quick reply. i am in washington state and they did the child support enforcement and court order stuff years ago .....i have not been on state assistance for over 4 years, did not want to keep the back support racking up. i think i may have been toooooo nice. and stupid at the same time.

    peace and harmony with and amongst all

    joy aka notLOL

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    Unfortunately, if your son chooses to stay there, your ex probably will get custody if he chooses to pursue it. You can't just take him back at this point if your ex decides to file a challenge. Since you have voluntarily decided to let him stay, and he wants to be there, it would be very hard to prove that its in his best interest to return to Washington. As for the signature question, he needs to have joint LEGAL custody in order to do that. Check your origional decree, and see if he was granted joint Legal custody, while you were granted physical custody.,

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    Default son in maryland with bio.father

    thank you for your time again......

    maybe im not explaining what im asking. i have no problem with my son being with his father. i initiated it......we had not seen or heard from him for 14 -15 yrs. i left him, we were not married, i had to go on state assistance and they initiated the paternity test and child support. when i stopped recieving state assistance i begain to recieve the child support check. i no longer recieve one. this doesnt matter not sure why i am even typing it.

    if he takes me to court to get child support from me......thats fine.
    i dont have a problem with helping with my sons needs. now in reguards to the joint custody, i really dont believe that was even possible, it was done through the state system and he was not around , they garnished his wages to recieve the child support,
    i located the father, i wanted him to meet his son, as i wanted my son to meet his father. i never met my father so i always have wanted to. anywho.

    my son is there now. if my son were to get hurt would his father be able to get medical care for him? is there something i could fill out and have notorized to authorize his father, temporary custody, guardianship........or something.....my son doesnt want me to give up complete custody. which i was going to do. i am not going to try and take him back , im not looking to be rude about this at all.

    so my question is what can i send his father to authorize him to be responsible for my son. persay enrolling in school, medical, etc.
    thank you again for your time.

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    What state is the father in?

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    Default son in maryland with bio.father

    my son is in maryland with his father. i just need to make sure
    my sons father wont have any problems if something were to happen to our son. not sure how to explain , im not looking to cause problems or anything. or get him back. i am happy that my son is having the opportunity to get to know his father and all the family his father has. i didnt want to go back thru the courts. i thought since my son is 16 he is old enough to be where he wants.
    if he needs a parents signature, i want his father to be able to sign. if you read my previous posts, my son hadnt seen his father since he was 1 and half. well 15 years ago i moved away with my son and he didnt see his dad until dec.2005. i am in washington state and they are in maryland. his father seems to believe there is paperwork i need to send him , and i dont know what it would be.

    thank you for your time.

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