My question involves paternity law for the State of: Nebraska
Hello, I am 28 weeks pregnant with a very active boy. I love him to pieces and I want him to grow up in a normal stable home. you know, preferably one mom, one dad, one home.
My boyfriend is claiming paternity and signing the baby's birth certificate. so I should be having no problems, right? WRONG!
A man, 9 hours away (Oklahoma), is convinced he is the dad.
quick history update: we had a one time fling and according to him he pulled out so unless he knows something I don't know, he shouldn't be the father, my boyfriend who slipped up on the pull out should be.
Well for the 1st few months the conception date was sadly pointing to the other guyand my lovely best friend told him everything.
(he lives with her)
Well recently my doc changed my due date, changing my conception date.
Pointing towards my boyfriend and no longer the other guy.
Sadly this isn't enough to appease the other guy. He is still convinced that the child is his and is determined to take sole custody of the child and limit my visitation rights.
According to my best friend he is getting a lawyer and everything and is sure he is going to win. (so I guess the confidence of this man is making me nervous).
real quick brief: this man is a total jerk, and I am not exaggerating. This man gave me bruises bigger than my fists, and he was stupid enough to hit me in front of my friends, and my boyfriend and his mother saw the bruises. He emotionally abused me, calling me names (fatty, ugly, you name it he called me it), sadly to admit he had me try "X" the night of the questionable sex.
He is very aggressive and a control freak. When we did try to date the sex was always forced. (we were not together the night of question)
(I do apologize, I just want you to realize what I am dealing with)
He has a job, no car, about to get kicked out of his apartment, does drugs, and is socially abusive and very violent with people. (so i fear for my child's life and upbringing)
I have a job, a car, a stable home, a boyfriend with a GOOD job, a car, lives with me in the stable home, The baby's room is almost completed, I do not do drugs, I dont even smoke cigarettes, and even though I am 21, I do not drink. I only had one glass of wine and that was on my birthday.
I know that I am a very fit mother, I babysit frequently, and the kids love me.
but I also know that in court decisions the sex of the child can determine who gets sole custody.
and to the main issue.
Do I need to worry about loosing my newborn to this man?
I do plan on breastfeeding, but I dont want that to be the only reason why I get to keep custody of my child, for now. I fear this guy may be a danger for my son.
my boyfriend wants to be the father and claim the child, will this help me in anyway?
(would marriage help anything?)
If I get sole custody and he gets visitation rights am I forced to travel to Oklahoma with my newborn for him to see the baby or will he have to find his own means?
I don't even want child support! I do not want this man influencing my sons life (again this guy is violent, does drugs, does not have a solid place for my son to grow up).
I need help to save my son!
I want him to have a normal child hood!
and he is already going to be put in alot of stress when he comes into this world.
Please let me know, WHAT CAN I DO TO WIN?

