My question involves restraining orders in the State of: wisconsin.
i lived with my boyfriend josh for 2 years. he wasnt physical or anything but i just wasnt happy so i moved out and broke up with him. a few months later i met tom and we started dating. when josh found out he started harrassing me.. calling and texting and randomly stopping by my house one day he wouldnt leave and i had to call the police. ..one night tom and i saw him out and he ran up to us and grabbed my arm and wouldnt let me go and finally tom and i got out of there and i went to the womens community center the next day and they helped me file a domestic abuse restraining order. josh now needs to leave me alone for 2 years.
well i made a huge error. at the end of december, tom broke up with me (right before christmas) i found out he had met someone else. suffice it to say, i was heart broken. i needed someone.. yes i had friends and family but i needed something more.. do you know what i mean? so being a complete idiot.. i called josh. he came and picked me up and we spent a few weeks together. i didnt drop the restraining order and i didnt tell anyone. i was completely selfish. i was honest with josh, however, that i wasnt over tom and idk just honest about why i was there with him. well a few weeks later tom came and wanted to be with me and of course thats all i wanted and i went back with him. weve been together since then and i do love him but i just dont trust him that hes not going to find something better again and leave me. and lately ive just been miserable. there are just so many things with tom thats just not right. i have to weigh my words and tip toe around him and i just feel like i cant make mistakes, ya know? so the last week ive been feeling like i should leave him. and ive been thinking about josh again. thats what tells me this isnt right. i dont know what to do. maybe i should just be on my own. part of me just wants to drop the restraining order and break up with tom and go back to josh. and the other part still cares about tom but i know ill never be able to completely be myself with him. i dont want to live my life like that. im just so unhappy and confused right now. so if anyone has read that whole forum.. my question is.. should i drop the restraining order and if i decide to.. how do i do it?