My question involves restraining orders in the State of: Oh, Ky

There is a DVO in place to keep my x's bf away from her and my son. Every time I turn around they are violating this order. My x will call her bf up and take my son around him and for some reason he is the only one going to jail over this. Maybe I am wrong but shouldnt she be held in violation or contempt since she is the one making an effort to go around him?