Son Being Interrogatted by X

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My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Florida.

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now and for all four years we have struggled with his x-girlfriend, mother of his seven year old son. She cannot get past the fact that we are together and continually punishes us all, including her son, as a result. My boyfriend and I have kept quiet in the past because the issues were petty and we both wanted to be the better person but the most recent incident left both disturbed. His son recently fessed up to us that his mom interrogates him every time she picks him up from school after his time with us (they have 50/50 custody, he is with us Sunday - Wednesday). I'm not talking about the basic questions that all parents should ask their children, I'm talking about full blown investigations into our lives with him. He went into clear detail of how she badgers him with questions about what we did, things that i say in converstation with him or with his father, she asks him if i abuse him sexually or physically...she basically drills him until he cracks about everything and anything too the point where he is afraid of her because he knows if he says something she will beat him (she asked him if he called me mom because if he did she said she would find out and beat him for it). He doesnt want to lie to his mother so he tells her whatever she wants to hear until he realizes that he could pay consequenses for it. He came home in tears saying to us how mean she is and how shes not fair because she keeps him from us by inventing reasons for him to stay over at her house instead of coming here. He was bawling tears and it broke both of us. My boyfriend has kept his cool with her because she has a history of violence and overreactive behavior towards him but this time he cant take it anymore. They havent been together since he was 1 and wasnt as aware of her ways as he is starting to be now. I'm afraid that she traumatizing him and my boyfriend is soooooo frustrated. He's dealt with her instability and insanity for years now but i think this was the last straw. A friend at work told me that it was against the child custody agreements for a parent to interrogate a child the way she does? Is this true. If so, Is there anything that we can do to prepare for proving that she does so to a judge? We cant continue to let his son suffer this way...he will never feel like he can really enjoy his time with us if he continues to build this fear towards sharing his life here with her. Please help!

[Xena]

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Florida.

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now and for all four years we have struggled with his x-girlfriend, mother of his seven year old son. She cannot get past the fact that we are together and continually punishes us all, including her son, as a result. My boyfriend and I have kept quiet in the past because the issues were petty and we both wanted to be the better person but the most recent incident left both disturbed. His son recently fessed up to us that his mom interrogates him every time she picks him up from school after his time with us (they have 50/50 custody, he is with us Sunday - Wednesday). I'm not talking about the basic questions that all parents should ask their children, I'm talking about full blown investigations into our lives with him. He went into clear detail of how she badgers him with questions about what we did, things that i say in converstation with him or with his father, she asks him if i abuse him sexually or physically...she basically drills him until he cracks about everything and anything too the point where he is afraid of her because he knows if he says something she will beat him (she asked him if he called me mom because if he did she said she would find out and beat him for it). He doesnt want to lie to his mother so he tells her whatever she wants to hear until he realizes that he could pay consequenses for it. He came home in tears saying to us how mean she is and how shes not fair because she keeps him from us by inventing reasons for him to stay over at her house instead of coming here. He was bawling tears and it broke both of us. My boyfriend has kept his cool with her because she has a history of violence and overreactive behavior towards him but this time he cant take it anymore. They havent been together since he was 1 and wasnt as aware of her ways as he is starting to be now. I'm afraid that she traumatizing him and my boyfriend is soooooo frustrated. He's dealt with her instability and insanity for years now but i think this was the last straw. A friend at work told me that it was against the child custody agreements for a parent to interrogate a child the way she does? Is this true. If so, Is there anything that we can do to prepare for proving that she does so to a judge? We cant continue to let his son suffer this way...he will never feel like he can really enjoy his time with us if he continues to build this fear towards sharing his life here with her. Please help!

Your BF can file for a modification of the court order to include this issue. Once he files, he should also file a motion requesting that a GAL (guardian ad litem) be assigned to the case.