I married my spouse and have raised my 18 yr. stepson since he was very young. We also had children together after we married.
I have always suspected that my stepson suffered from a form of mental illness that causes a lack of rationale, violent temper tantrums and generally subversive behavior, such as destroying property of the other children, bullying, physical violence and threatening behavior.
Recently, we discovered he had been stashing alchohol in his room in our rented home in NJ. This is potentially dangerous for our other children. My spouse constantly makes excuses for him, downplays his behavior and will not support me in getting him professional help and asserting that he behave respectfully and abide by our rules.
I've called the police before and because my spouse and I do not agree, they just leave and tell us we need to get on the same page.
He is working and it's time for him to go. Please tell me what my options are, especially with my spouse and I not in agreement regarding this. I fear for the safety of the household. Things are worsening as they all get older and the other children begin to resent him more and fight back.
Changing the locks won't work. My spouse will eventually give him a key.
I have read that I can request a restraining order. Where and how do I do this? What are the implications for him? Does it go into effect immediately and will that keep him away from the house?
I have also read that I can issue him an eviction notice. Where and how do I do this? How soon can I have this go into effect?
Thank you in advance.

