Emancipation to Move in with Another Adult

[KaleneM]

No it's not for a boyfriend. but this household is to stressful. and they're barely home and when they are we fight all the time. My friends mother has allways been there for me and she sees what I am going through. I know my reasons seem so small. But growing up I know they will affect me in the long run. My mother went through all this, and look what its done to her. Thank you so much for helping me I hope this works

[cbg]

I want to reiterate; the teen years are stressful for everyone. Nothing you have posted suggests that you have it any harder than the average teen - probably not as hard as some of the kids who have posted here. The likelihood of your friend's mother being granted guardianship is very slim. If your mother objects, it will not happen at all.

As for your mother leaving home at 16, the laws have tightened up just in the last few years. What may or may not have been allowable a generation ago is not allowable now. But you're complaining about her and yet you want to follow the same path she did?

The way to grow from a situation is not to run away from it, but to work with it and learn from it.

[KaleneM]

Im not saying I want to follow in her footsteps. Living with her mom basicly ruined her and I want out before the same things happen. Your right some teens have it a lot harder than I do, but that doesn't mean I want to sit here and get treated horribly. No body deserves that.

[cbg]

No, you're right. But it's a matter of perspective. My daughter thought she was being treated badly when she wasn't allowed to turn her hair neon colors. The fact that you find everything stressful and that you fight with your mother is not, in itself, a reason to allow you to move out.

It may be that a judge will decide in your favor. It may be (and it probably will be) that he won't. Suppose he won't. Suppose he says you have to go back to your mother, or your aunt. Are you going to let the difficulty overcome you, or are you going to use it to become a better person?

And if you can use it to become a better person after a judge says no, maybe you should start doing so now. Then, if you're allowed to leave, fine. If you're not, then you'll have already started growing.

[KaleneM]

It's not about little stuff like dying my hair. It's that she doesn't treat me right, and she allways uses the excuse saying "ohh I took you in" which I do appreciate I am not an ungrateful person. I am just under enormous stress here.

[aardvarc]

Unfortunately, the very reason that you are asking for emancipation is exactly the reason a court is likely to deny your petition. Emancipation is granted EXTREMELY rarely, and then only to those persons who have already shown a great deal of maturity, have a track record of overcoming major obsticles and issues, and generally have been through some major fires in life and survived to come out on the other side still kicking. Telling a judge that you want out because of "stress" if you have a roof, food, clothing, a place to sleep, and aren't being subjected to physical abuse or some other VERY SIGNIFICANT issues is going to result in the court rolling it's collective eyes and moving on to the next case.

[KaleneM]

Trust me my life has been nothing but a living hell, I have been abused and sexually assaulted when I was younger. I want away from all of this, yes things to you guys seem so small and insignificant but to someone whos going through it, it's a big deal. I am sure a lot of you have gone through it when you were younger, so you understand a little but im sure. I am very desperate to leave it all behind. And I really appreciate everyones advice.

[KaleneM]

I know what happened in my past doesn't account for anything now, but I was just respondding to what you said about abuse.

[KaleneM]

My friends mom said she will take me in, what steps could I take to help my case?

[LawResearcherMissy]

cbg already explained this:

The likelihood of your friend's mother being granted guardianship is very slim. If your mother objects, it will not happen at all.