Emancipation to Move in with Another Adult

[aaron]

Did you read this? Do you meet all of those requirements?

[cbg]

nobody seems to understand anything

We understand better than you think.

we fight too much she doesnt let me do anything because she doesnt trust me and I havn't given her a reason not to trust me.

That is NOT a valid reason for emancipation.


I am getting a job and I am able to support myself

Do you have even the remotest clue how much it is going to cost to support yourself?

its not like im moving out on my own.

I've got news for you, little girl; emancipation MEANS being on your own. Emancipation does NOT mean moving in with someone else and paying a few token charges towards your support - it means paying your own rent, food, utilities, transportation, medical care, insurance, school fees and supplies, and all the other incidentals of life. ALL of it - BY YOURSELF. What you are looking to do, moving in with a friend's family, is NOT emancipation. No matter how many people tell you otherwise, you CANNOT move out at 16 without permission without running the risk of having your cute little rear dragged back home - or thrown in juvie.

Now, here's how you can prove to the board here that you are capable of acting like an adult (which is what you want to courts to believe) instead of a whining child stamping her feet because no one will say what you want to hear. Are you willing to listen to a potential solution that does NOT involve being emancipated?

[LawResearcherMissy]

im not moving in with my dad, nobody seems to understand anything we fight too much she doesnt let me do anything because she doesnt trust me and I havn't given her a reason not to trust me. I am getting a job and I am able to support myself its not like im moving out on my own.

Oh, teenagers.

Yes, teenagers fight with their parents. And then they complain that they "never get to do anything" and "nobody understands!", and fail to recognize that they've got clothes on their backs, roofs over their heads, food in their bellies, and an internet connection to cry to all and sundry that their mother is a bitch, their father is a tool, and everyone just needs to understand that "*footstomp* IT'S MY LIFE!"

No judge cares.

And in New York, no law exists to allow you to petition the courts, anyway. You've been told this already.

Emancipation is not about want. It's about need.

"My parents died in that plane crash, and I've been paying the bills all by myself, but they won't let me take over the mortgage or switch the utilities into my name and I'm going to lose my home if I'm not emancipated."

That? Grounds for emancipation, where such statutes exist, and would probably get your case heard and your status formalized in NY.

"My mother never lets me do ANYTHING!"

Not grounds for emancipation. Definitely won't get you anywhere in NY.

[seniorjudge]

I had a "reverse emancipation": I wouldn't leave so my parents kicked me out!

[KaleneM]

I understand that I have to get a job. But I do not want to leave school. But living here is much to stressful. I can not take it. I am going to get a a job that I will be committed too.

[KaleneM]

I didn't say my parents dont let me do anything I said that this is just too stressful of an environment.

[KaleneM]

CBG yes I am willing to listen.

Thank you

[cbg]

Okay. It's a long shot. It may not work, in fact it probably won't work. But it is the ONLY chance you have, and if it doesn't work, you have NO options but to continue to live where your mother says you live. Is that understood before I go any farther?

[KaleneM]

Yes I understand

[cbg]

Okay, then. As long as you understand that.

The ONLY shot you have got at living with your friend's family is if the mother, father or both go to court and petition to become your legal guardian. The judge will review the entire situation and decide if it is in the interest of EVERYONE involved if guardianship is changed. It may well involve your mother's consent since at the present time it does not appear that she has had her parental rights taken away. ALL teens fight with their parents; ALL kids find it stressful, and there is every likelihood that you will be sent back home to live with your mother, or your aunt. As I said, this is very much a long shot but it is quite literally the only chance you have unless your mother grants permission for you to live somewhere else.

The grass is not always greener. EVERY kid fights with the parent or other adult that is responsible for them. What makes you think that once your friend's mother has legal responsibility for you, it's still going to be all peaches and cream? You're going to hate my saying this, but you are too young to realize that you are not going through anything that every other kid, including everyone here, goes through or has gone through. You think we don't understand? Most of us not only went through it as teens but also as parents with our own kids. We understand better than you do since we've been through it from both sides of the coin.

Oh, and btw, if this is a boyfriend you're talking about, don't even bother asking about guardianship because I guarantee you the petition will be denied. It's a long shot if it's a girl friend; if it's a boyfriend, it ain't gonna happen.