My question involves paternity law for the State of: California

my husband has citizenship in another country and when we were going through some rough times recently, he kept our child there and said that the child will now never leave that country, if i wish i can come to live there with the child, but can not bring it back to the usa. that country's laws allow for this to happen and mother has not right to remove her child. later i found that i am pregnant with another child. our marriage is registered in that country but not in usa. now, if i put his name on the birth certificate of this new baby, he can get a passport from his embassy for this child, and take this baby out of usa also (yes, there is even a warning on State Department web site, they can not prevent people taking kids out on foreign passports, even if they are also US citizens. sweet!). So if i put his name on birth certificate i have to always live in fear that he will take this baby at any time without my consent.

so that would leave me with two options: 1) to leave father's name blank (he is not here to complain), or 2) to put someone else's name instead of his.

if i ever change my mind, and suppose some day we reconcile with him, and sucessfully negotiate our differences which may take months, but ultimatelly this is the solution i prefer if it ever proves possible... then how much harder it would be to fix scenario 1 vs scenario 2? And if the reconciliation is not possible, how hard it would be for him to get legal rights to this baby in scenario 1 vs. 2, and threaten me with stealing this child?