My question involves a child custody case from the State of Maine.
My boyfriends ex has residential custody of their 5 year old son. (We live in New Hampshire) Up until 2006 there was no custody order, she filed for custody and some how got it. We received visitation every other Thursday - Sunday. We meet her halfway.
Since then he has had lice over 7 times. He stinks so bad I can't breathe the whole car ride home. It takes about 6 baths to get him smelling clean. She did live in her own apartment and was a CNA. Then she moved in (2007) with her boyfriends grandmother to help care for her after about 3 months her boyfriend kicked her out, so she moved in with her mother. After about 2 months she moved into a trailer or camper as her son calls it and he lived with friends of hers. Then she moved into her mothers house again. Now her and her boyfriend live with his parents and 2 other siblings in a two bedroom trailer.
First thing is, that she is supposed to give 30 day notice before moving and inform us of her new address. up until the last time she never said a word, her son would tell us when he was with us and then we would ask. also she lost her job as a cna and now is a waitress at a little diner working 1 day a week.
second, my boyfriend is supposed to call at minimum 1 time a week to talk to his son, but she has had 6 different phone numbers (cells) since oct 08 and now she has no phone at all. we are supposed to pick him up tomorrow but have no way to contact her.
third, she put him at age 4 on ADD medication without talking to my bf which is a stipulation of the court agreement. and we dont even know who the doctor is she jsut gives a name of a doctors office but no specific doctor and my boyfriend is not listed as the father at the doctors or the preschool.
Also in november of 2008 we had to take him to the emegency room two visits in a row because he has pin worm and a fungul infection on his behind from not being clean. She was supposed to take him after the first time to his doctors and before we got him she said it was all cleared up. he was bleeding and we had to go back to emergency room
we have called dhhs and they were supposed to do a well child check but never did.
then we ended up having him for 47 days in a row. she did not even get him for christmas because she would call the day before we were supposed to meet every week and say she didnt have a ride.
we have also found out that on weekends she said she couldnt meet us she has come down to nh and then gone right through our town and farther to his parents house and robbed him of weekends while visiting with his family.
what can we do?? the poor kid has no idea where he lives, he has no bed he sleeps in the living room with her and her boyfriend, and is filthy and supposedly he is still on medication but she never sends it with him for the weekends.
HELP

