My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Pennsylvania
I have shared legal custody of my 12 yr old son. For the last couple of years i have been patient and tried to be understanding. His mother took him to ocean city maryland without my knowledge. She also allowed his uncle(her brother) to take him to wildwood for a week. I had to call for three days to find this out. In both situations i was never called nor made aware of the travel arrangements. I wasn't even called to speak with him while he was where he was. She once disappeared for a year+ and left no phone number or address. I had to go to my sons school to see him until the court case came up. Even now she won't let me see him at times and will only allow me to see him when she wants to go out. Two years ago, i had him for christmas in the morning and tried to be respectful and took him to his moms on christmas in the afternoon. This past christmas she said she didnt even think of him coming over on christmas. she said i can pick him up the next day but to bring him right back because of a party.
Well anyway. I recently travelled to florida. i took my son with me. I let her know when I got to the airport because of the drama in the past with getting him. well she said she never agreed to let him come with me and that i cant do it. She threatened to call the police and call amber alert. But i told her. she said i cant take him across state lines without her permission. when i reminded her of the trips she took she said it wasnt on a plane and it was only in jersey and maryland. While away i let my son call her twice but she still went to the police and reported a violation of court agreements. Again i have shared legal custody and i let her know when i was leaving. I have the text messages and phone records to prove i told her before i left. no where in the court agreement does it say i need to tell her in a certain amount of time nor ask for her permission. we have no special arrangements in our court papers...just regular shared legal custody. Let me also add....that i have never put my son in any danger, i don't drink or smoke or use any drugs. I always make sure he respects his mother even thought he doesn't want to live with her anymore because she is always scrwaming and cursing at him. Her dad that she lives with has no job and screams and curses at her mother who is retired. My sons loves my house because no one curses and no one is mad at him all the time.
So can i call her on making false statements?
Do i have the right to do what i did as long as i let her know?
Does she have a leg to stand on as far as modifying the court order back to visitation?
can she go to the police everytime i don't do what she says?
Since she is always mad at me and my son and curses at him, can that be a type of abuse?
Do you recommend a court appointed home visit and maybe therapy (i forgot what its called)so the court can see that something may be mentally wrong?
any help would be great.