Girlfriend and Sister Caught Shoplifting, Need Some Advice

[panther10758]

Fine, I will take you advice.

If mod's are able to do so, please, just delete this thread. I have had enough.

They wont so dont bother asking

[LawResearcherMissy]

If I were to take action I would call the store up ask to speak with the manager and work this out like ADULTS.

ADULTS will counsel their girlfriend and their sister to get attorneys and get them rightdamnnow, instead of fussing about inconsequential, third hand, quite probably lies.

My husband is a retail district manager. As Jeff notes, those rooms ARE taped - always audio, often video. No business is interested in losing their business to make petty remarks having nothing to do with the matter at hand.

Frankly, your girlfriend and your sister are not AT ALL to be trusted here. I don't care if they were recently canonized, you can't believe them right now.

DO NOT call the store. As you've already been told, legally, you are no one in this case. No. One. They're not going to talk to you, and if you pester them and try to persuade them to "handle this like adults", you're just going to make the situation worse.

They need lawyers. If they aren't in a position to pay for private counsel, they need to show up for court, plead Not Guilty, and ask for public defenders.

As for you?

Stay. Out. Of. It.

[Prog_Student]

ADULTS will counsel their girlfriend and their sister to get attorneys and get them rightdamnnow, instead of fussing about inconsequential, third hand, quite probably lies.

My husband is a retail district manager. As Jeff notes, those rooms ARE taped - always audio, often video. No business is interested in losing their business to make petty remarks having nothing to do with the matter at hand.

Frankly, your girlfriend and your sister are not AT ALL to be trusted here. I don't care if they were recently canonized, you can't believe them right now.

DO NOT call the store. As you've already been told, legally, you are no one in this case. No. One. They're not going to talk to you, and if you pester them and try to persuade them to "handle this like adults", you're just going to make the situation worse.

They need lawyers. If they aren't in a position to pay for private counsel, they need to show up for court, plead Not Guilty, and ask for public defenders.

As for you?

Stay. Out. Of. It.

In case you haven't noticed I have already been met with hostility and told to stay out, I have already made it clear that I will do so. I have made it clear that I do not want anymore.

[LawResearcherMissy]

If you "don't want anymore", I suggest you stop posting.

Posting to a public forum WILL elicit commentary, and it's not always going to be what you want to hear.

[cyjeff]

However, just because it isn't what you want to hear doesn't make it wrong.

I consult to retailers and have been a store manager and LP person myself.

Let me tell you a story from my store management days.

A woman came into the store and wanted to buy a TV. She worked in the regional office and so wanted to use her employee discount.

Unfortunately, she didn't bring her company ID or the documentation from her manager to get her that discount.

So I couldn't give it to her. I handed her a blank form for her to fill out and told her that I would hold one of the sets she wanted until she returned (they were selling fast at the price listed).

The boyfriend she came in with had enough. He asked me what my problem was. Why was I being such a jerk about this? All his girlfriend wanted was to buy him the TV so that he could watch the game.

Wait, I said, this TV is for you? She cannot use her discount for friends... just herself and immediate family.

Then he got REALLY mad. I walked the two of them to the front. On the way, the boyfriend decided that the best way to get me to give him the discount was to threaten me with physical violence.

We were met at the door by the police. I had signaled my personnel on the floor to call them as we were walking up... luckily, a patrolman had just entered the store to buy a camcorder battery for his personal use.

Long story short... boyfriend gets cuffed and stuffed for trespassing (because he INSISTED he had a right to stay in my store after I and the police both told him to leave), he got no TV and the girlfriend got fired from a nice job for causing a near riot in a company store and trying to fraudulently use an employee discount.

Boyfriend was not involved. His involvement not only didn't help, but got himself arrested and his girlfriend (ex, I would believe) terminated.

Yours will end worse.

[cyjeff]

ADULTS will counsel their girlfriend and their sister to get attorneys and get them rightdamnnow, instead of fussing about inconsequential, third hand, quite probably lies.

My husband is a retail district manager. As Jeff notes, those rooms ARE taped - always audio, often video. No business is interested in losing their business to make petty remarks having nothing to do with the matter at hand.

Frankly, your girlfriend and your sister are not AT ALL to be trusted here. I don't care if they were recently canonized, you can't believe them right now.

DO NOT call the store. As you've already been told, legally, you are no one in this case. No. One. They're not going to talk to you, and if you pester them and try to persuade them to "handle this like adults", you're just going to make the situation worse.

They need lawyers. If they aren't in a position to pay for private counsel, they need to show up for court, plead Not Guilty, and ask for public defenders.

As for you?

Stay. Out. Of. It.

All I will say in our young's friends defense is that when a person you care about makes such a stupid mistake, your mind will fixate upon the one point you believe you can fix.

In this case, he fixated on the point in the conversation that he believes he was talked about.

Do I believe that conversation took place with the LP? Not a bit. Does it sound like a story told by an immature girl that got caught by the MAN and wants her boyfriend to still believe in her? Absolutely.

However, it doesn't matter if the LP guy compared his fatherhood equipment to that commonly found on hamsters ... it isn't actionable by the OP.

[Prog_Student]

God it would be wonderful if someone would just delete this thread.

[cyjeff]

God it would be wonderful if someone would just delete this thread.

Won't happen.

[panther10758]

If you want to thread gone stop posting on it and let die of old age

[Moderator]

God it would be wonderful if someone would just delete this thread.

No. The rules here apply to you, just like everyone else.

Missy gave you good advice: If you don't want anymore, stop posting.

Complaining that you're going to get a brain tumor (yes, I can see those posts) is silly, so let me make it easy for you to take Missy's advice: Thread closed, you're banned, have a nice day.