My question involves criminal law for the state of: California
My now 19 year-old daughter, privately educated and repeatedly hospitalized & medicated & tri-weekly outpatient attended by mental health professionals for "seratonin reuptake inhibitors" and so forth, yet, never employed, enrolled in full time cosmetology school with her AA already attained, had an "episode" while in the passenger front seat with me driving her 11 yr. old sibling and father from his birthday lunch at Elephant Bar.
This episode "escalated" while I was stopped at a red traffic light.
First, she yelled to her silently enduring & mortified father, "When you die, I will dance on your grave!" Getting no response beyond my, calm, "___, don't say that." She repeated, and so did I. Then, a third time.
Secondly, she immediately yelled to her father in the back seat, "When you die I will urinate on your grave!" To this I responded, "___, don't say things like that; it isn't nice."
This, too, repeated three times while stopped at the red light.
Thirdly, she immediately yelled to her father in the back seat, "When you die, I will pay a bum to jackoff on your grave!"
The light was still red. This happened SO QUICKLY!
All of a sudden, I put both hands off the steering wheel and clasped the sides of my head between the cheeks & ears areas while making what I can only describe as "natural childbirth noises" ~ I've never made those noises except in that situation... I did this about 6 - 12 times, then, remembered where I was ~ Can you believe it? THE LIGHT WAS STILL RED! __SO FAST!__
I oput my hands back on the steering wheel while glancing at the light and realized I had tears on the front of my cheeks. I wiped them away but was sobbing...
I took my right hand from the wheel and turned to her, saying, "___, I do not EVER want to hear those ugly words from your mouth EVER again!"
IMMEDIATELY & SIMULTANEOUSLY, I put my hand back on the wheel and glanced at the STILL RED LIGHT as she started saying more of the same - but, I do not recall those barely begun words... INSTANTLY, I flung my right arm in her direction.
The TIPS of the short nails SCANTLY BRUSHED the excess folds of thick cloth on her new hoodie sweat as I said, "Stop right now!", put my hand back, (NOW the light went to green!)...
I was in first position at the light and was mid-intersection when she was already speaking with 911 dispatch on the cell phone we provide her...
Yes, my daughter called 911 on me!
Her father _FIVE TIMES_ said for me to pull over, so he could put her out of the car.
FIVE TIMES I merely held up the index finger of my right hand to him in the international "one moment please" signal as she related to dispatch what street we were passing and how she was in fear for her life and I was hysterical and so forth (none true ~ I sucked it up and drove without delay when the light changed and was SILENT the whole drive... TO THE POLICE STATION! :-)
YES! __I__ drove us to the police station, MUCH to the surprise of HER & DISPATCH!
Once there, the TWO responding patrol units arrived while I was inside, seeking assistance with the whole debacle...
Our other child came in to tell me they were on-scene, so, I excused myself and went out to speak with them.
FOR __THREE HOURS__ we all stood in the parking lot, waiting for her to NOT make a "citizen's arrest" in response to the officer's MANY efforts ~ INCLUDING: (1) of them going inside to consult Watch Commander as to ANY "loop hole" for NOT needing to take her citizen's arrest...
EVENTUALLY, and with MUCH APOLOGY, I was read my rights and handed Notice To Appear for PC 242 Battery.
The officers strongly suggested I just leave her there, in downtown, on foot and penniless, instead, I rented a hotel room for her, for the night, and she's been here this past month, attending school, going out, eating out with us, asking for things, taking private driving lessons, "like nothing". But ME? I am a nervous wreck about this 6 months in jail & $2,000.00 fine!
I have been an employee of the Probation Department for YEARS, assigning offenders to Anger Mgmt...
I am a State Certified Victim's Advocate, serving 12-hour weekend shifts for Sexual Assault & DV survivors at local SART Rooms between manning the 24-hour hotline...
This is _SO_ not part of my life ~ I've had ONE (dismissed when I showed my proof of insurance I'd failed to find at the time) ticket and ZERO ARRESTS...
The MORTIFICATION is DAUNTING!
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
I would like this "gone" ...
Thank you in advance for any assistance you may be able to provide as I go through this trying time ~
Oh! And, as of last Monday, she has FINALLY agreed to resume seeing a $160.00/hr world-renowned specialist for her behavorial issues ~ her second appointment is this Monday...
Would it help if the judge knew this was just a "young adult with mental health issues currently in treatment, initiated 5 years ago but stopped against parental wishes when she turned 18 and went off her meds/off her MWF outpatient visits?
Thank you.
If you need further details, or ? I will be forthcoming and prompt in my replies :-)



