
Quoting
aardvarc
First, you need to realize that every time you go over there, you risk being arrested. Being arrested for being around the mother of the child who has a restraining order against you can result in her getting an order to cover not only her but the child as well. You need to STOP violating this order immediately if you plan to have any future contact with your son. She doesn't have the legal authority to say that it's ok for you to be there - ONLY a judge does.
Have you already established paternity?
You'll need to formally and legally be the child's father...THEN you can pursue custody/visitation matters.