You should try to get a free consultation with a divorce lawyer, and work out a strategy. Really, you have a lot of issues going on here, some of them pretty tricky, and you're unlikely to get anywhere but confused trying to get help in forums.
You should try to get a free consultation with a divorce lawyer, and work out a strategy. Really, you have a lot of issues going on here, some of them pretty tricky, and you're unlikely to get anywhere but confused trying to get help in forums.