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    Default Child Abuse by Police Officer

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    Texas- My ex is married to an officer. I had already been given a hard time by cops as was her other ex in traffic experiences and court. Even one time when I had to call the cops because my son said she choked him before he came visit(he was 8yrs old) An officer questioned him outside and he came in scared and refusing to talk to me. After being denied access for a little while after that call she went for an increase in Child Support and was granted but was ordered to allow me to see them (2 kids) again. When I went for my first visit happened to be sons bday. They were packed up and moved no address or number given. Her mother refused to give me info saying Id never find them.

    8 almost 9 years of hell passed trying to get Attorney general to give me the address and her lawyer as well but the lawyer said no as did friends and family because she would get mad. Even called internal affairs to say thier stepdad was an officer in violation of court order and was disclosing personal information to others about me and my wife with traffic warrants for unpaid tickets and such ( I know). When I finally found them my older son and I found each other in the internet. He gave me stories of fist fight and choking and told me when he would get away he would run away and sometimes call the cops-only to be brought back and be told how could he do that to his mother and he needed to do dishes or whatever the issue was.

    He had also TRIED 2 TIMES TO COMMIT SUICIDE (wrist slice and overdose)of course I was never called. When his mother and SD told thier stories it sounded unprovoked because they would leave out the violence on the husbands side and paranoid feelings of not being able to call the police to help him. So he was diagnosed BIPOLAR. He said he just felt hopeless about the situation and wanted out. Finally he realized he could tell the school and CPS had to get involved. They were informed that the cop and him could not be in the same house-guess what- guardian ship was given to my sons friends parents who his mother had never met.

    It is about the time I found him and he didnt want to tell me what was going on. He was 17 He didnt want me to worry. I went and brought him home. CPS closed the case and sealed records because he was a police officer- actually during this time he was promoted to DETECTIVE. I was told by a CPS employee that charges were recommended by the agency but the judge disagreed. I know police are supposed to be called when there is a CPS report at school but I dont think they even forwarded a copy to th DA. We left our information but were never called at all. Even though there are photos of marks on his neck from the choking (again). We were told only the possessory parent could request the records for charges but thats his mom and she wouldnt.

    CPS completely closed the case because "the child was not in danger" since he no linger lived in the house.They didnt even offer him counseling.My son doesnt trust any authority figures. He doesnt understand why he was punished by having to leave his siblings and home and the officer didnt have even a write up. He wants to persue charges but I explained that it cant be for revenge even though my heart aches and frankly I cant stand what that man did to him. But my sons response was that it just isnt right that the officer has no consequences and as an officer he is supposed to protect people and uphold the law and that is why he wants justice. Had it been any other parent it would work like that.

    The records are sealed and we are told because he is a cop he has more privacy rights. My son might be able to get them when he turns 18 but they might have the cops info censored. I am not the custodial parent even thought he lives here but even if I was they said I cant have it either. How can we pursue charges and get justice served? My son might never trust again if I dont try to help him get this resolved. It is vindication that he isnt crazy and he wasnt this horrible child. He is a good child who is fiercly loyal and loving and so intelligent. He gets pretty good grade now but he continues to have trouble giving respect to authority figures because he thinks everyone lies and has trust issues. Everyone is so hopeful about his progress. BIPOLAR not even a little!!! I have know people with it. He may go into depression over this soon. But he is safe and very loved and I know he knows that.

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    Default Re: Child Abuse by Police Officer

    I'm not sure what you're trying to do or why, but when your son turns 18 he doesn't have to have anything to do with his mother's ex-boyfriend, assuming the guy has even been around since he was eight. You don't even make that clear.

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    Default Re: Child Abuse by Police Officer

    After hiding him from me for nearly 9 year against court order,his stepfather of 10 years who is a police detective,beat him up many,many times until he tried to commit suicide 2 times. CPS was called at school. My son gets kicked out of his home he had shared with his siblings and only because he no longer lives in the home with the offender the case is closed by CPS. NO charges for child abuse or assault and the child is sent away-nothing ever filed with the DA or police by the officers who were called to his school. He longer trusts any authority figures, If you can't trust the police to do their job and when the others keep bringing him back home to the abuse when he tries to get help- who do you trust? Yea he is safe and I am so happy to finally have him back and living with me and he never has to see them unless we are picking up his brother, so I guess he should just get over it?! right, because he is 18 he should just grow up and forget it?!! I still have a son in the home and there is another sibling from a different marriage there, who are also targets. I suppose you believe that we are are so ungrateful for what police do for us? It is a police officer who told us that the correct procedures were no followed and I am grateful to her and others who do their job. Protect and serve- thats the job-NOT ABUSE and COVER UP. I am here to support him. HE is the one that approached me to ask why the guy never had charges against him. I asked if it was revenge because we should not waste our energy on people like that. HE SAID it was the principle of doing what is right. The officer is their to protect and he didnt. He should answer for his actions as anyone else would,because if anyone should non right from wrong it should be the police. I agree so we are seeking help in finding the best way to approach the system to help us press charges. If this is what it takes for him to find closure then I am here for him-nomatter if other people think we should just be glad he is out and should get over it.

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