Hello, all. I have been reading up a little and the forums seem very helpful. Here's my situation:

My family and I have entered the country through Mexican border (we are not from Mexico, however) w/o inspection around 10 years ago. I was under 18 y.o. at that moment. Documents for asylum were filed within 3 months. After 4-5 years of interviews, courts, etc. my family has been granted the right to stay in the country (deportation withdrawal) until the situation in our "home" country improved, but NOT the asylum. We all have received SS numbers within the first year and have the right to work in the country. Our only "disadvantage" is that we cannot leave the country or we won't be able to re-enter. We have been paying taxes and none of us have any criminal history. I have also graduated from high school and university here and I am currently employed.

A few years ago I got married to a US citizen. We would like to file for adjustment of status. After consulting a few lawyers, however, I am still not able to get a definitive answer. So far we have heard:
- cannot file for adjustment, since I have not passed inspection
- might need to leave the country to wait, may take from few months to few years and the 2-10 rule may also apply;
- may be able to file for a waiver, no guarantees, of course;
- write to a congressman/whoever else and ask for pardon
- and my "favorite" one: do nothing, since I may lose what I already have

So with that in mind I have a few questions:
- Since we have filed with the INS as soon as it was possible for us and have gone through a lot of procedures (fingerprinting, obtaining SS, work authorization, etc.), would that negate the fact that we have entered without inspection and make me eligible for adjustment of status?
- Does the fact that I was granted deportation withdrawal negate the fact that I did not pass inspection?
- If you have seen anyone in similar situation (namely, no inspection upon entry but having obtained legal status later on), can you please share what their actions were?

Thank you and I'm looking forward to your replies.