Thank you so much for your response. Can we assume that the obligation was discharged in bankruptcy because she was named in our bankruptcy and all obligations to her are discharged since the adversarial complaint has been dismissed?

It seems you are saying she might have legal recourse in another court (like back to family law or civil court) but that she has none through bankruptcy. Are we understandng that correctly?

We were actually trying to assist her in getting the QDRO completed so that we could get the adversarial decided and finished and move on with our life. We gave her all the numbers even though we didn't have to do so but now we are wondering if we should just leave it to her to take whatever action she might have available to her and if she does nothing then it is her loss.
Neither party has an attorney any longer due to cost and both having filed bankruptcy which included a minimal amount of attorney fees for us (our attorney was very satisified with the more than $50,000 he got from the case so he had no problem with our bankruptcy). He actually advised us to file.

We obtained information as to the division of the pension and the numbers from the attorney for the pension and had a sample form QDRO provided. The division was pretty straight forward so we never understood why the ex wouldn't get it finished. Well, we do understand, she wanted a bigger piece of the pie than she was going to get.

If she has to file another action somewhere, it is highly unlikey she will do so because she can't afford it. Based on the bankruptcy discharge, can we now just move on and not worry about the QDRO unless she takes some other form of action? The final judgment in the divorce was a property settlement only and did not contain any support issues. Child support is being handled in the county where we now reside as we have custody. The court specifically addressed spousal maintenance and refused to order it.

Are we able to move on and leave her to deal with this iF and WHEN she ever does?
Thank you for your assistance.