Is Your Mom Living with a Guy Who You Dislike a Valid Reason to Get Emancipated

[justcaseee]

i didnt say they were beatings, i said i physically fight with
him and i stated before that they havent happened alot
lately. and its not like i am a defenseless little child in the
corner getting beat.

but its something i dont think is right, and shouldnt be
put on anyone. and emancipation would be best for me
in my eyes, but all your going to see is a immature teen,
but thats not me, you dont know me. and i cant change
your perception on what i have stated.

maybe you should read more carefully before you come back
with your sarcastic remarks.

thanks.

[aardvarc]

so you just have to live with a stepdad you physically fight with and a mother who lets it happen?

Unless they either allow you to live somewhere else, or a court of law changes your legal guardianship to another adult, or you can prove to a court that emancipation is not only in your best interest AND that you have a track record that leaves NO doubt that you can TOTALLY support yourself - yes. If things are getting physical, 911 is your friend. Remember that the only person's behavior that you have control of when things start getting out of control is your OWN.

your just supposed to let them put you down for your
beliefs and for being gay?

Do you think once you're out of their house that you won't be getting this from lots of other people - and that it won't continue for the rest of your life? You have a VERY rude awakening ahead of you.

thats okay?

It's not ok in my book - but it IS legal, and isn't going to be taken by a court as being SO bad that emancipation is going to be considered MORE in your best interests.

its okay that they call you names

The first rule of being gay, especially as a teen, and MOST especially to a teen who is "out" is to start growing a much thinker skin, and FAST. I was out at 15, and I'll tell you that it doesn't get easier once you leave home.

and pull your hair

Again, see the previous comments about reporting possible physical abuse.

its okay that they drive you to the point of self mutilation?

That's YOUR choice of coping mechanisms - they can only push the car, YOU decide where the car is headed. Self mutilation all by itself will completely destroy ANY possibility of emancipation. It shows a serious and dangerous lack of healthy coping skills (one of the BIG things judges look for when determining if you are ready to face the big bad world all by yourself). Get yourself some help, whether that be via a school counselor, a GLBT therapist or hotline/helpline, reading some books, whatever - learn better ways of dealing with stress, anxiety, and conflict - and learn it soon enough to head off any behaviors that could end up with you in either a hospital or non-voluntary psychiatric evaluation.

The self mutilation issue aside, have you already saved up a substantial sum, are you making excellent grades in school, do have a good track record of employment, do you have a budget that includes rent, utilities, groceries, health insurance, transportation, clothing, etc. already drawn up? If any of those aren't well covered, the whole discussion is moot anyway. Emancipation isn't about proving how bad things are (even the absolute WORST abuse cases rarely have hope for emancipation), instead it IS ALL about proving how GOOD YOU ARE and how ready you are to handle things on your own. THAT is where you need to be concentrating if you want emancipation to be even a REMOTE possibility.

[justcaseee]

thank you aardvarc.