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    Unhappy My Boyfriend is on the Lease. He Has No Job, No Prospects. Can I Get Rid of Him

    My question involves a roommate in the State of: Minnesota

    I have been with my boyfriend for seven years (I am now 22) and we have been living together for the past three years in different apartments. We recently moved to Minneapolis where I transferred into a new school and we signed a lease together.

    He is basically a deadbeat. It has taken me a long time to finally accept this and realize that I need to get him out of my life. He has not been able to hold down a job for more than a month or two over the last three years. Over this time, he has received three different settlement checks as the result of a dog bite when he was a kid that he has been able to use to pay most of his bills and rent. I thought that with this recent move and his recent (and last) settlement check he would take responsibility for himself and be able to start fresh and get his life going, but it has been three months and he has not made any serious attempt to find employment and I have watched his bank account dwindle as he uses it for all his expenses.

    He also has no car, no license, no friends. He has real problems with social relationships and tries to avoid leaving the house whenever possible. It sounds really bad, and it is. It has been getting worse over the last year. I feel really stupid now for getting him on the lease, but I guess I was hopeful and trying to get him active into taking responsibility for his life. Unfortunately I now fear that that decision has trapped me into full responsibility for this apartment with no way of making him leave.

    I have enough money saved/parents/part-time job that I think the landlord would approve me to be the sole lease-holder, but I have no confidence that my boyfriend would want to get off the lease. He probably knows that I will have to pay the bills with or without him and that if I sued him for rent and bills he would not pay me the judgement because he would have no money, so if I were to break-up with him he would probably stay in the apartment and try to make my life as difficult as possible.

    Here is the situation I think I'm in:
    I am stuck with the bill once he runs out of money or when I try to break up with him. I am stuck with him in the apartment.

    Here is what I think my options are:
    Plan A: Tell him that he can be released from the lease and take the $1600 he has left and try to stay with family and figure out what he's going to do with his life.

    Plan B: Maybe if I move out, after a month or two he will not want to stay in the apartment because there is no one there to take care of him.

    Problem with Plan A- He tries to avoid confrontation and taking responsibility and would probably choose to stay and either spend the rest of his money on bills or decide to just stop giving me money for his half of the bills.

    Problem with Plan B- I have no idea what would happen to the property and he is completely capable of trashing it and living isolated with no phone, no car, no money until god knows what happens.

    Wow, getting that all out really makes me want to cry because it really looks like I'm screwed... I hope someone might have any ideas that would make this situation any better. Thanks for your responses.

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    Default Re: My Boyfriend is on the Lease. He Has No Job, No Prospects. Can I Get Rid of Him

    but I have no confidence that my boyfriend would want to get off the lease.
    ...and therein lies the problem.

    He's on the lease. He has a legal right to stay there til the end of the lease term, and you really cannot make him leave.

    Plan A, while certainly reasonable, may cause you some problems should he refuse to leave. Or, your landlord will not agree to releasing him from the lease.

    Plan B would be disastrous. You're on the lease. You're responsible for whatever happens to that apartment AND if you just up and move out, he can take you to small claims for your share of the rent for the remainder of the lease.

    Speak with your landlord about the situation first. If he's amenable to releasing your boyfriend from the lease, try Plan A. Elsewise, your option is to simply not renew at the end of the lease term and move elsewhere - without the baggage.

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    Default Re: My Boyfriend is on the Lease. He Has No Job, No Prospects. Can I Get Rid of Him

    I understand that I am stuck with the bill in any outcome, so if I move out it would be just to get away from him and I would still pay the rent to the landlord.

    Is there any way that the landlord could evict him and not me?

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