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  1. #1
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    Post Abandonment and No Contact or Support in 5 Years

    My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of:South carolina

    I dont even know if he is dead or alive..But anyways..I live in SC...I'm 26 years old..I'm a mother of a very wonderful, sweet,and caring 5 year old lil girl..Back in 2002 I stared dating my daughters biological father...We was living in SC...Everythnig was ok..I was happy..But then the day I found out I was pregnant..Hell broke loose when I told him..He was not to happy...His parents was mad bout it..Why I don't know..All of them wanted me to have abortion..I said no..I'm against abortions...All of us started argueing..So I left and went home...Later on came home...He was still mad..Fussing at me..Cussing me..Calling me awful words...He got in my face was pointing his finger at my belly cussin me telling me to have a abortion..I said no again...I told him to get out of my face...He did though..Then he said if you dont I will...As i was walking to the door to leave...He grab me and started puncing me...Stab in my hand...(I still have the scars)...Then started choking me...When i feel down he had stomped me in my face...I don't remember much after that..When I came to I was bleeding, hurting and couldn't hardly see....I had to blackeyes..My left eye was swollen shut, my right eye was open just a lil bit..I couldn't talk cause it hurt to bad...I call my preacher and he call my momma...They call the cops..Now my parents lives 2 hours away from in another county in SC...The cops there tranfer the call to the County I was in...The cops came arrested him....He got charged with cdv high aggravated assault and battery intent to kill....The cops took pictures of me...Then soon my momma and aunt came to get me..I went to the hospital to get checked out..They check my daughter cause I was 3 months pregnant...She had a very strong heartbeat..Found out that my jaw was broke from my tooth all the way down..I Had to have surgery to wire it shut...That was hard cause i was pregnant and couldn't eat..I only could suck through a straw..I was done with it..When we had to go to court I found out the pass history of him...He had several CDV's on his ex wife.....And him from hitting guy in the head with a bat..He give him a skull fracture..As I know he didnt get no time for all that...Well he pleated guilty and got a lesser charge of CDV and had to pay fees...My daughter was born October 13, 2003 a month earlier then I was due....She was 5lbs...Premature but a healthy and alert baby the docs said..Her biological father show up..I didnt want him there..So security escorted him out.Cause I was afraid for myself and him hurt or kidnap my daughter....There is one of his family memember that I had call several times to get up with him..He not there..So i leave a number ...Never call me back..I send several letters to him.Certified and uncertified...I dont get no response..One time I finally got a hold of him he told me that he wont pay child support or see her...He didnt care..He said he couldnt pay child support cause he pays child support for his son he had with his ex-wife....He said I pay to much for my son and I get him on weekends..So how I suppose to go see her when I have to go get my son..He also said I live to far...I only did live an hour and half away...He wanted me to bring her there..I said nope...Last I heard he was couple thousands dollars behind..I told him that he dont deserve to have her for a daughter..Anybody can be a father but someone special to be a DADDY....I said ok thats fine..You been out of her life for this long..I said sign your rights over he said no...I just hung up...He has not give me a penny or seen her in 5 years...He does not write to her or send gifts for her birthday(her birthday was here recentlly,nor even a card nor he sends anything for Christmas...He has no excuse not to know my address cause when I wrote the letters it had my address on the envelope...He has no excuse not to call cause the phone number has not change in years...What I'm trying to do is get him to sign his rights...If he dont sign them over what charge can I use....PLEASE HELP ME IF YALL CAN..THANKS DIXIEMOMNSC..

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    Default Re: Abandonment and No Contact or Support in 5 Years

    Has he ever been legally established as the father?

    Is there a court order for CS?

    Is there a court order for visitation?

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    Default Re: Abandonment and No Contact or Support in 5 Years

    No..No..and No...The truth is the reason why I have never did anything years ago was because after I was hurt and my daughter was born I had only took one day at a time..I didnt look into the furture..3 years ago I meet a wonderful guy that has been there since day one for me and my daughter finacially, spiritually, physically, protection, and mentally...The wonderful guy that I meet is now my fiance..And he wants to adopt her and give our daughter his last name also be on the birth certificate...My fiance and daughter and I have so many pictures together...Biological father has none of my daughter or I.....My fiance has been the only man that she knows as daddy...My fiance and I have been the ones who puts her to bed, if she falls off her bike and bumps her knee we are there, we do family outings,vacations,church together as a family, we take her fishing, and we tell her farming stories cause my fiance works on a farm....I was thinking bout making a will out cause if something ever was to happen to me I was told that my daughter would be going to her biological father who is a complete stranger to her..South carolina states that grandparents does not have the right to take guardianship..only way that my parents could is if both child or children parents are dead...He has only seen her a few times when she was a newborn....Bological father has never gave not typ of support or no contact or no gifts for holidays or birthdays..The way I feel is it would be wrong and not the best interest for my daughter to see a strange person which is the biological father that has never been in her life..The best interes of my daughter would for to not to see the biological father...In her mind she thinks that my fiance is her father or say daddy..She calls him daddy, she always be at the door when she hears him drive up..She would run out the door screaming daddy daddy your home and jumps in his arms kissing and huggin him saying i love you daddy....After it has been so many years I dont think the biological father should have no rights or visitation at all..My fiance calls my daughter his daughter..People honestly would admire my daughters curly hair and blue eyes...They say you look just like your daddy...My fiance would smiling from ear to ear.. I would like to hear more from ya'll..Thanks...

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    Default Re: Abandonment and No Contact or Support in 5 Years

    To answer your first question- he does not have any legal rights to give up since he has never been established as the legal father.

    Concerning your fiance wanting to adopt- once you and fiance have been married about 1 year, you should get a consult with an attorney about the adoption process. You might be required to locate the bio father, establish paternity and then he can relinquish his rights and allow the adoption. Some states require this, others don't. I'm not sure if your state requires it or not, but since you and fiance are not married yet, you have plenty of time to get a consult.

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