wow. thanks for the info, it doesn't look good for me. I guess I'm going to have to make an appointment with an attorney and see what he says. I shouldn't have to put up with this abuse, but if I leave her, I'm faced with living on minimum wage until one of us passes away. This is hardly fair. I gave her a free ride for 12 years and paid to raise her kids. I don't understand why it can't be left at that.