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    Default Paternity Fraud

    My question involves child support in the State of: Minnesota

    Almost two years ago my ex told me she was pregnant. I asked her if it was mine and if she had slept with anyone else. She told me that the child was mine and that she had not been with anyone else but me. We were split up at the time and after several conversations she convinced me it would be best if we got back together and shared responsibility in raising 'our' child.
    At this point I jumped in giving 110% to starting our family. I changed my college major inorder to have a job that would be closer to home. I changed my life and everything about it to be a father and one day a husband.
    After our child was born I signed a 'Recognition of Parent' and we went home to start our new family. Within two months she said she could not live with me, giving no real reason for her leaving and moved in with her parents. I was left with all the bills for our two bedroom apartment.
    We came to the agreement that I would not pay child support until after our lease was up, 10 months down the road. I am a full time college student, work 25-30 hrs a week and had our child on overnight visits 2 and sometimes 3 days a week since she was 3 months old. During this time I would pay her portion of the rent, which was more than what child support would be.
    10 months later we went to court and I started paying child support and 100% medical. After many altercations with my ex and to include her numerous drug and alcohol problems I tried to get custody of our child. I have been going through the process for some months now and on a side note have become disillusioned with the system.
    During this process I started to learn things abut her family that made me question if I was the biological father. I had a paternity test done and two days ago got the results stating that there is a 0% chance I am the father. This test was based on 15 genetic markers and is without a doubt conclusive.
    Our child will be 13 months old this week. I am sorry if this sounds rambling but I am still in a state of shock. I love my child more than anything in the world! I still look at her and see me. But I also have been living a lie. Being a full time student, working the hours I do and paying all these bills, I am barely making it. I have been living on canned food and Mac-n-Cheese inorder to pay for everything. I gave up everything in order to take on this responsibility that was not even mine. I have been barely making it inorder to on day provide a better life to a child that is not mine. I am so pissed!
    My question is, is this paternity fraud? I am not out for revenge but I do want justice. What I want is to be reimburssed for all child support and medical expences paid. I want to be reimburessed for the 10 months rent that I paid for my ex. Along with expenses for being a free babysitter for over 100+ days the past year. I would also like her to pay for all lawyer fees I have incurred thus far.
    Again I am sorry if this sounds rambeling. Any help, ideas, or anything anyone can can think of that would give me a better idea of where I stand now would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

    EDIT: After looking through more forums this post might better be placed in the Paternity section. Another question I have is, the child has my last name and I am on the birth certificate. I want this removed. Am I obligated to pay for this?

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    Default Re: Paternity Fraud

    Some more information just came up. The paternity test I took is not legally binding. I have confronted my ex who at first denied the results and then later said she wanted nothing more from me to include financial support, saying she would sign any document I want if I do not persue this course. She said all she wants is me completely out of their lives, no strings attached.
    I told her that if she has nothing to hide to just sign for the paternity test, which she refused. Now it will take about two months for us to get to court for a court ordered paternity test. I understand I am obligated to pay child support until then. But from all the post I have read so far I will not get any of that money back. This woman is a thief!
    What would happen if I stop paying child support until after the results come back? If the results are the same will they still try and get money from me? This is a total mess.

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    Default Re: Paternity Fraud

    Are you prepared to turn your back on this child completely?

    You need to decide if the child you love is worth more than the money you might be out.

    I'm not unsympathetic to your plight; but you have some deep issues to resolve within yourself before moving forward with this.

    Good luck.

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    Default Re: Paternity Fraud

    That is my dilema. I have already decided not to make any final decisions until after the court ordered test. I know I have just started an emotional roller coaster that will take some time to figure out. But I do want to know what all my options are before I make any choices.

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    Default Re: Paternity Fraud

    Understandable.

    You should speak with an attorney. Many offer free consultations.

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