In a typical state, once a spouse forgives the other spouse for having an affair, the affair is no longer grounds for a finding of fault. But your choices relating to custody may come back up in a second divorce proceeding - it's not clear how long ago that happened, but I would expect your husband to at least try to bring up your offer to him of full custody in subsequent custody proceedings. You should discuss your situation with a local divorce lawyer, and formulate a plan in case your husband again files for divorce.

