My question involves criminal law for the state of: michigan

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Michigan

First off let me state by saying I have 2 children, and have been married for 4 years.

About a year and a half ago, I caught my wife cheating on me, I left her, About a year ago I moved to a different state, For about the last 2 months we have been talking about fixing our problems and making our marriage work again so i came back here, I have been staying over there about once a week for the last 2 months and hanging out watching movies and stuff, about 2 weeks ago we got serious again and said we were gonna work it out. About 5 days ago, we went to the show together and then went back to her house and had sex again.

2 Days ago, i went up to her work had a few drinks with my friends, went back to a friends house after the bar closed waiting for her to get off, she told me she was going to pick me up, after her ignoring my phone calls after waiting for about an hour or two , i drove over there, when i got there and knocked on the door, i heard her lock the deadbolt on me so i pushed the door open , i caught her red handed butt naked with some guy ( horrible image i will never forget in my life, i am really screwed up from this, i want to kill myself right now ), when i pushed the door open and screamed what the **** the guy put his hands up to fight with me and swung on me and gave me a black eye, so I lost it and we fought and i ended up beating him up. She obviously called the cops. Right after it happened i went to the airport and flew home. He is now pressing charges on me because I couldnt give him a $1000 right then and there. I offered to make payment arangements with him on $100 a week until i paid it, but he wouldnt accept.

I know michigan adultery laws are a felony, and i dont want to press charges against her or anything unless shes pursuing something for me breaking her door. But obviously I cannot stand to even look at her right now, but there are 2 kids involved in this whole mess.

I feel extremely bad for fighting with the guy, i know it wasnt his fault and he probably didnt even know what was going on, but i just lost my mind when i seen what i seen.

I also know she is on probation for having a drinking and driving, and is supposed to blow everyday, and when she drinks she has one of her cop friends sign the blow log so she is cheating on her probation, I also have a picture of the cop that is doing this for her. I dont want to have to call her probation and stuff like that, but i dont know any other way out of this.

I also work in the radio and reality tv, so i told her this was going to be very embarrasing for her, as we have media passes and can film in the court rooms and it would be a chapter of our television show, and it would be a topic of discussion on a local radio station this weekend.

Please help me, I need all the advice I can get, I cannot catch this charge, and what legalitys do I have?