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  1. #1
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    Unhappy Does Anybody Really Change in Prison

    My question involves criminal law for the state of: CA

    I know the prison's have diffrent types of programs for the offenders. Are any of these programs really successful in rehabilitating the inmates. What type of programs do they have for alcohol? What about anger manaement for an attempted murder charge?

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    Default Re: Does anyone ever really change in prison?

    The problem with offenders who commit crimes of domestic violence is that, unlike many other crimes that have multiple outward influences, domestic violence, at it's most basic level, occurs because the offender believes they have the RIGHT to their behavior - even when they KNOW that the act is a crime. (Get past the idea that drug or alcohol use causes DV and that if only the substance abuse would stop, so would the violence. While they are often seen together, DV doesn't occur BECAUSE of them.) This is why it occurs across races, ages, income levels, and social stratas, and is one of the crimes where once it occurs once, it can be strongly predicted to occur AGAIN. It isn't perpetrated to get "a fix", or to pay the bills - it occurs because it is a method of controlling another person - a person who the perp feels is "theirs", like a car, or a dog, or a chair, and whom they feel they have the absolute right to control or punish at will.

    Such people view the whole part about getting arrested, prosecuted, and punished, as being totally unfair against THEM. (Note that most domestic violence offenders are ONLY violent with the person they committed DV against, and NOT to friends, other family members, co-workers, or strangers on the street. I occurs against that one person that is "theirs".) If you're dealing with someone with more than one occurrance, it's time to either start looking for someone else, or start planning how you'd like your estate distributed - because the other overwhelming aspect of domestic violence is that it doesn't get "better" - it is a predictable cycle (and yes, the cycle does include some GOOD times too) that continues to escalate over time. Yes, some people might be able to learn "coping mechanisms" to help reign in their outward behavior, but changing the inner value system of someone well into adulthood, especially if they don't BELIEVE in the changes, is usually only wishful thinking.

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    Default Re: Does anyone ever really change in prison?

    Yes, they change.

    How they change depends on how they want to change.

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    Default Re: Does anyone ever really change in prison?

    Instead of clinging to your false hope that the man who tried to kill you will change. Why not get some therapy and move on. If by some miracle he does change and can prove that change is for good for your own safety you need to move on. Prisons have programs yes but its still prison. Where I dont know the recovery rates for prison programs I do believe its very very low

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    Default Re: Does anyone ever really change in prison?

    Thank yu for the information. I guess sometimes it takes someone who is not emotionally involved, to see the true picture. I have really been hoping and parying that he will change, but the fact remains, his behavior has escalated, to the point that it sent him to prison. I keep trying to make excuses for him, but that is maybe why the behavior continues. Thanks again!!!

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    panther10758 Guest

    Default Re: Does anyone ever really change in prison?

    Bless you and I hope you find the peace you seek

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    Default Re: Does anyone ever really change in prison?

    Your best bet is really to move on. Good luck to you. You might end up finding someone else who really loves you and cares for you and will treat you the way you deserve. Take care.

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    Default Re: Does anyone ever really change in prison?

    I suggest you try an alanon meeting or two or three. If nothing else, you'll meet some new people and a lesson or two about living with a drunk. The meeting are free and I've never seen bad company. There should be one in your area at least once a week if not more. You CANT FIX HIM HE ISN'T BROKE. This isn't even about HIM it's about YOU.
    Here is a link: www.al-anon.alateen.org

    There are also SEVERAL online stuff 24/7 going on all the time. Just do a search. You deserve to have someone treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

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