I'm pretty much in the same place as you.. I feel ya.. I lost my job and my gf is due november and I'm behind on payments because all of this.. the only way to pay them would be move to va for work but they won't let me because I owe.. a catch 22 I suppose..
It's not just family it's a number of things.. ask for a travel permit and head to Ill. and get hired then come back and tell them you'll have more stability if you can move and get a transfer.. That's what I would do if I didn't owe and were you..

